Question:
I JUST WANTED TO KNOW IF IT IS REALLY POSSIBLE FOR A DOCTOR TO DETERMINE IF YOU HAVE HSV-2 BY DOING A VAGINAL CULTURE, IF THERE IS NO ACTUAL LESION TO SWAB? AND IF YES..... HOW IS THAT POSSIBLE..... IF YOU ARE DIAGNOSED AS ASYMPTOMATIC DOES THAT MEAN YOU WILL NEVER HAVE A BREAK OUT? ONE MORE THING, DOES LIFE REALLY GO ON AND WHEN DOES YOU HEART STOP HURTING SO BAD?

Answer:
Well I was diagnosed 10 yrs ago, with culture test, never told it was hsv 1 or 2. I don't believe they can tell which one by a culture/swab test. But that was 10 yrs ago, things may be different now. There are blood tests to determine hsv 1 and/or 2 in your body. I have been asymptomatic since my first outbreak. Talk about heartache, my new boyfriend is scared. He hasn't run away from me yet, but I know he's scared. I told him before we even had a real date (we met once for coffee) then before we had date date, where we spent alot of close time together, I told him I had herpes diagnosis 10 yrs ago with no symptoms since. He was seemingly ok with it, but after we had our date date where we got hot n heavy, lots of kissing and mutual oral sex, he had that herpes in back of his mind, and we didnt' go all the way. Last week, which was about 4 days after our night of hot n heavy (w/o intercourse) he told me the reason we didnt' have sex was that the herpes was in back of his mind and he was scared; that before it goes any further he wants to educated himself about HSV. He's starting to realize that it's much more common than he and I ever knew. Most people walk around with HSV 1 THEIR WHOLE LIVES and never know; even some walk around with HSV 2 and never know, because they are symptom free, and no outbreaks may occur, such as my situation, with none in 10 yrs. It's scary for him, and I am afraid after 1 week of him reading up on all this information out there, that part of him is still afraid; and we haven't seen eachother in a week partially because of his fear, and not knowing/feeling comfy with the information yet. There is soo much out there to absorb and digest. But what it comes down to, is that he's got to care about me enough to be willing to take the risk. We are going to see eachother this weekend, hopefully, we discussed it past couple days and last night he said yes, that we would definitely do that. I told him I understand the sexual tension, because we both want eachother very much. But there's no reason why we can just abstain from that until he feels more comfortable with his own education on the subject. He can read all he wants, but that doesn't mean we can't see eachother. I know he wants me very much, but this fear he has, will just have to get better with time. I am hoping that when he sees me again, he will see I am still the same woman he cares about, the same woman his heart beats heavy for, the same woman who gets up at 4am just to see him before he goes to work, the same woman who misses him and sleeps with her pillow which still carrries his manly scent when he spent the night with me....(no nooky night). So I have hope....but there's always the chance that he may choose to not want to deal with it. Sad thing is he probably already has hsv 1 and doesnt' know it. I recommended he get tested for everything, so he knows and then we both know and are on the same page. It's the sad truth, but some people allow fear to control them. And ignorance is fear. KNOWLEDGE IS POWER. Good luck. Doirinne