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My lady friend has HSVII and I do not. She has various emotional and physical maladies that eventually caused the breakup of her marriage. She has received appropriate mental and physical help for eight years and became independent, even if she was lonely. After divorce she impetuously sought love in her life without much thought of God and got Herpes. She suffered greatly from shame and low self-image. Since then, she has come to terms with her state of being, and has brought God into the equation, basically accepting that there are lessons to be learned and that God's "Plan" for her may never include a man in her life, yet still hoping and praying that it may happen. Then I show up, totally accepting her and loving her, her prayers answered.

My point is that without spouting "Jesus" every moment of the day, making and living thru mistakes, maintaining a God-connection, accepting reality, and continuing to have hope, one can still have peace and love and healing in life.

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Amen!

Angela :lol:

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:) Thank you for your statements. I just recently was diagnosed with H and am still coming to terms with it. After my husband died I drifted from my faith and started dating a man who was not of a faith but he was very honest about his having H and I went on in the relationship and we moved in together. Well here I am 17 months later with herpes and he and I are not living together anymore because I want to go forward in my faith and he doesn't want to go in that direction. We are still very good friends. I do feel depressed about having this yucky thing and feel that I will always be alone because of the herpes. I am 48 and have had a full life so what ever happens I guess is o.k. I don't even know how I would explain this to a good Christian man. Thanks again for your support and have a glorious day. :?

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I am sorry about the loss of your husband. You are SO YOUNG to lose a mate. My condolences.

You know what, christianity/christians always speak of forgiveness. Who is anyone to judge you? Other than yourself, and your GOD. You are a normal, loving, HUMAN. I can't even say you made a mistake, you fell in love, accepted another human being despite his flaws....it didn't work out, but you are still you! :D I bet you come out of this stronger than before. It will be rough, but you will do fine.

Take care of yourself, adn if your faith gives you inner peace and solace, that is all that matters. I would be willing to bet some of those "good chrisitan men" have not always been so good themselves. I am willing to bet you will find someone down the road who will love you no matter what...and for YOU.

Take care of yourself, and stay strong. :D

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I am 48 and have had a full life so what ever happens I guess is o.k. Are you saying that my life being full ends in 12 years? That's how much older you are to me. I'm 36 and when I think of 48 I'm still thinking of myself as being young and with a long rest-of-my-life ahead of me.

I don't even know how I would explain this to a good Christian man. Thanks again for your support and have a glorious day. :? [/i] A good "Christian" man and Christ follower would love and accept you for who you are and could care less what you have.

Aren't we always asking ourselves... WWJD?

Chin up,

Angela

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Angela's right. Any Christian worthy of the name would accept this condition as part of the deal.

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By the way sunnigirl, it is 7 months since I started this thread and my lady and I are now engaged (since Easter Day)! My wife passed away last Summer. My lady is 48 and I am 56. You and I have a lot in common. So...options abound for you!
God Bless You!
Mike

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:D Hello yoshi2me
No I meant that it has been a good and full life to this 48th year and it isn't over yet. :lol: Life will continue to be full and amazing.
Thanks for your encouragement. I love your possitive attitude.
And you are absolutely right that a good man whether christian or not would accept me for me.
Hope all is well with you
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:D Hello yoshi2me
No I meant that it has been a good and full life to this 48th year and it isn't over yet. :lol: Life will continue to be full and amazing.
Thanks for your encouragement. I love your possitive attitude.
And you are absolutely right that a good man whether christian or not would accept me for me.
Hope all is well with you
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I'm so glad that you too are having a positive outlook on life. It is truly extraordinary ~ isn't it? :wink:

I do my best to try and be as positive as I can be. It doesn't always work but I do try. :)

All is well w/me. I decided to play hookie from Church today and am enjoying the peacefulness here at home.

*Hugs*

Angela :P