Question:
Hi everyone,

I've been lurking here since last night, and after reading everything that many of you have gone thru, I figure it's time I started talking, because I see that I'm not alone. I do need to vent though, because I'm pent up, with no one on this earth to talk to, so I hope you don't mind.

I was diagnosed yesterday with genital herpes and I am just devastated. I don't know for sure who infected me and I don't know how long I've been exposed, as I understand that people can be asymptomatic.

My problem, however, is I've been in a new relationship with a man and for most of this time, we used condoms; but for the past couple of weeks we have not. Having said all of that, I really don't think that he is the one who infected me, in fact, I think it was my ex-who probably passed it on to me orally. This is just a hunch, but a stong one.

Anyway, I'm now face with the hardest task of my life, having to tell my current friend. We've gotten so close in such a short time, but I really don't think he's going to take this well and will leave me. The thought that I could have exposed him to this is killing me, but of out my care for him, I know I must tell him, even if it means losing him. I've prayed so much in these last hours, asking God to give me the words to say, but I can't find them and I'm having a very hard time picking up the phone to call him. I'm depressed, scared and feel so alone.

I know you all have your own problems to deal with, but could someone to talk to me?

Thank you in advance.

Scared

Answer:
I just found out today and I am beside myself. I'm not in a relationship now but I am thinking about how I am ever going to tell someone about this. Will I ever be able to get involved with someone again? I haven't even rec'd my lab results but the Dr. said he is pretty sure that's what it is. Part of me hopes that he made a mistake but all the symptoms are there. I'm praying to God to help me. I feel alone too. I don't know who to turn to. I wonder if I'll ever be happy again. I'm afraid that this will always be a big black cloud hanging over me. I hope your man understands and that it works out. You should talk to someone about it.


Hi everyone,

I've been lurking here since last night, and after reading everything that many of you have gone thru, I figure it's time I started talking, because I see that I'm not alone. I do need to vent though, because I'm pent up, with no one on this earth to talk to, so I hope you don't mind.

I was diagnosed yesterday with genital herpes and I am just devastated. I don't know for sure who infected me and I don't know how long I've been exposed, as I understand that people can be asymptomatic.

My problem, however, is I've been in a new relationship with a man and for most of this time, we used condoms; but for the past couple of weeks we have not. Having said all of that, I really don't think that he is the one who infected me, in fact, I think it was my ex-who probably passed it on to me orally. This is just a hunch, but a stong one.

Anyway, I'm now face with the hardest task of my life, having to tell my current friend. We've gotten so close in such a short time, but I really don't think he's going to take this well and will leave me. The thought that I could have exposed him to this is killing me, but of out my care for him, I know I must tell him, even if it means losing him. I've prayed so much in these last hours, asking God to give me the words to say, but I can't find them and I'm having a very hard time picking up the phone to call him. I'm depressed, scared and feel so alone.

I know you all have your own problems to deal with, but could someone to talk to me?

Thank you in advance.

Scared