Question:
I've posted a few times about how upset I was that a longterm friend rejected me after I told him about my genital herpes. I'm providing an update about what happened that I hope will help someone realize that this can be a blessing in disguise.

We reconnected after a few weeks of not talking. To sum up what happened, he basically treated me like dirt when we saw each other including saying things to suggest that I am a slut and crazy. He even went so far as suggesting that I manually stimulate him because he someone deserved it, while making it perfectly clear that he thinks I'm disgusting and would never sleep with me. :x He kept talking about my H even though we had agreed to just be friends again (and it no longer mattered) because I think he was trying to put me down about it and take advantage of me. He continued to say that the information out there about H is not correct (you know the facts?), while refusing to even concede that you cannot confirm you have an STD or not without appropriate tests.

So, how is this bad treatment good news? If I didn't have this problem, I would have definitely ended up dating this loser. :!: Instead, I got a picture of who he is pretty upfront that I hadn't seen all these years. :twisted: I know it would have me taken me much longer to realize what a jerk he really is otherwise. Thank you genital herpes!

Oh, and I finally told my mom which feels pretty good. She was totally supportive and didn't make me feel bad for even a second. I highly recommend it. Even my old mom who seems out of touch with things was like, "The commercials are on all the time. Isn't it really common?" Hello - yes!

Also, thanks to everyone out there on this site because you all have helped me a lot with coping with this. I've realized I'm defintely fine despite this problem and don't deserve to feel bad or be treated badly. None of you do either!

Answer:
Amen my sister...amen!

I too, believe that herpes can be a gauge as to who is real and who is just looking for some ass, or will treat you like shit. It can wean out the mice from the men.

Sure, herpes sucks, BUT, it is not the end of the world and we are NOT bad people.


I am so glad you were able to tell your mum. I bet that alleviates alot of internal stress having her on your side and supportive. I am happy that you have that sort of relationship with her!!!

Great post. This totally made my day!

as for that douchebag who "dumped" you, he did you the greatest favor. Thank God you get to see him for his true colors.