Question:
So, I'm mad at myself and my husband would be too if he read this. I had oral sex with another guy I used to be dating years ago. Well, actually, I did for maybe 30 seconds, and I didn't even want to. My husband knows about it, but he is really upset pretty easily. I don't want to tell him I'm afraid. I don't want to tell him I remember my mouth swelling up and getting a very tiny, hardly visible rash after I was with him those many years ago. I've always thought I just had allergies to something. Now, though, we've both contracted the same type of thing. It's on my panty line and his thighs, and it's happening at the same exact time and looks pretty much the same. He's worse, though. He can barely walk and nothing seems to be helping him. Me, though, I'm starting to heal up already. If I contracted it to him and then he contracted it to me, I'll just die. I think he may even leave me. I don't know how to tell him about my suspicions. With his job (he's always sweating and running around all the time), we figured it was jock itch, but he's not getting any better with all the medicine we've bought to cure jock itch. I don't know what to do. I'm freaking completely out. I mentioned something about how I had coldsores and that he might have caught the HSV 1 virus genitally, but he didn't even see how that was possible because of where our rashes are and how we both got them at the exact same time in the same place after we'd been intimate last three days before we both broke out. If he doesn't want to hear about HSV 1, how could I tell him about HSV 2?! I am in a sheer panic. I don't want him to leave me, and I know if he does because we find out we have HSV 2, I'll be devastated and hate myself forever. I already do, and I don't even know if our symptoms sound like herpes. Shew ... I can't even stand it anymore. I can't even sleep worrying about it. I tried to look up pictures or resources and I can't find anything at all. This is just terrible.

Answer:
First of all, breathe.

Second, have some chamomile tea to help you get some sleep. Most likely, you need it. If you do have herpes, you're not doing your body any good by not taking care of yourself.

Third, go visit the doctor. Insist on getting tested for herpes. In the meantime, read up on herpes. Yoshi2me has a wonderful website which is very helpful. I believe from her site you can access Gayla's website which is another great resource. The banner for this forum provides more great information, countless members have posted various websites, and WebMD.com is one of my many personal favorites.

You're in my thoughts.