Question:
I was diagnosed back in 1983. So I've been living with it for over 23 years. I was careful when it came to vaginal intercourse but I didn't know a person could get genital herpes orally. I found out differently the hard way. This might sound insensitive but at least now there are a lot more people with the virus and it doesn't quite carry the stigma it used to. The one bit of advice I want to give to you is don't make decisions concerning your relationships based on you having herpes. I was dating this one girl before I contracted herpes. We broke up when I moved back to my hometown to go back to college. We still stayed in touch even though we had major differences. Ironically we both contracted herpes from other people during our time apart. When she told me of her infection during one of our telephone conversations it was like we HAD to be together because no one else would want us. I moved back to where she lived and we got married. Eighteen painful years later we got divorced. The only reason we got married was the fact that we both had herpes. Fortuneately we are friends now but the fact remains the disease altered the course of my life. Don't let it do that to you. Keep your head up because you are not alone. ((HUGS))

Answer:
Wow, that was really nice to hear. We all know how easy it is to let this virus take over our thoughts and actions. And to some extent it should.

But you're right... It shouldn't change your life or how you feel about yourself.

I'm glad you and her could remain friends. And I can understand the reasoning behind you two marrying each other. I hope things get back on course for you and you find that special someone that belongs in your life. H or no H.

:)