Question:
I've had Genital HSV1 for probably close to eight years...

When I was 17 I met this really wonderful guy. He was so sweet to me and we cared a lot about each other. He was also a virgin. We had no worries in the relationship.
This grew into a great thing between the both of us. We stayed together for 3 1/2 years. He was really good for me.
He did tend to get fever blisters (HSV1) on his mouth from time to time. But I was a smart girl and had no problem with this. I just made sure there was no kissing or any other extracurricular activity. What I didn't know about was viral shedding and how even if a blister isn't present this virus could be passed.

And it was... So now I live with Genital HSV1 and have never had a "fever blister" on my mouth in my entire life. lol

I don't regret the relationship even though this happened. And he still dosen't know to this day that this happened to me. I wasn't diagnosed until 4 years later.

My first initial outbreak was very painful. I thought it was a severe yeast infection along with a urinary track infection. When I had my (I assume) second outbreak I was already scheduled to see my OBGYN that week. He took one look at it and said it was Herpes. I freaked... But tried to stay calm b/c until we have test results you can never tell.
So, he did a culture... - Which was pretty painful btw...-
About a week later a nurse calls from his office and everything is negative! YAY!!! I was so glad. So I thought maybe my skin had been irritated by the new soap I was using.

I told the guy that I was seeing at the time about this. That I thought I had it. (before the nurse called) And he flipped! He accused me of cheating and all kinds of stuff. He left for about 5 hours and I stayed right there and cried the whole time. Talk about support.
He did come back home but this subject was not brought back up until the nurse called and said it was negative. I told him and everything was fine after that.

Until the doctor called me back 2 weeks later. He told me I had been misinformed and that I was positive for HSV1. This devestated me... I thought everything was fine and now it wasn't?!?! You're telling me I have to go through that "talk" again!?!
I could never bring myself to do it. Because of how he acted the first time. I just managed it myself.

I have to say that I have been lucky and it hasn't been that bad. I usually forget all about it b/c I rarely get outbreaks.

Now I'm dating someone new who is absolutely wonderful to me. Things got really carried away last weekend and I didn't mention anything about HSV1. I had completely forgot about it!!
Until this past Tuesday when I felt that tingle... Usually that's a sign for a possible outbreak. It was kinda like it was tapping me on the shoulder saying, "Hey, you didn't forget about me, did you?"

Now I'm worried... I have to and want to tell this new man in my life. I think he cares enough for me to not let it affect our relationship but you never know. I want to tell him tonight or tomorrow. I mean I love him he must know. I don't want to not be honest... that is not love.

So hopefully everything works out. I know I will be crushed if it doesn't...

Answer:
So did you tell him?

Hind sight being 20/20 I would rather someone tell me... I just found out I have it and I know exactly who gave it to me. Seeing how I was married for 9 freaking years and have only been with one person since, but do you think he told me? Hell no! I swear I am so freaking mad, I feel so betrayed and violated.

If he loves you he will understand but tell him.

Answer:
silent_angel:

You need to tell your new guy. If he loves you he will understand, but it will take time. He might need time to process everything. He probably will be upset, seeing as how you had sex, and haven't old him prior.


You seem to handle your disease well, that is great. You have good things in your life. If your new guy is understanding, he will listen if you explain the situation. Educate him more on the disease, if he seems willing.

Keep us posted!

Answer:
Hey everyone and thanks for the replies! :)

Yes, I did tell him last night. He asked me what it was and I explained it to him and explained how it affects me and could possibly affect him.

He was like, "That's it? That's all you had to tell me? You had me worried it was something worse."
He thought I wanted to end the relationship...

So yeah everything is fine and I'm glad he knows. And knowing that he still wants to be with me shows me how much he really does care about me.

Answer:
HAHAHA! that is cool. My boyfriend responded in almost the same way! (when I told him, he was relieved, as he thought I might be breaking up with him!!! THAT was the furthest thing from my mind!!)

See, not all people freak out. There ARE some good guys (and gals!) out there who will see past the herpes and love/care for you no matter what!!!

YAY Angel!!! Hope things really flourish for you and this relationship!! woo hoo! :D