Question:
I've had herpes for almost two years now. I've accepted it and continue to live life with some "down in the dump" days in between. Today being one of those days. Mostly because I'm in the middle of an outbreak. The funny thing is, I don't dwell so much on how I'd like the kill the jerk who gave this to me or wonder why he still won't admit that he knew the whole time.
Rather I cry because I've been betrayed by my own family. I believe more people need to be educated about this and I wanted to do my part in order to save others from experiencing what I have to live with. I decided to start with my family, including my teenage sister whom I love very much and wanted to protect. I knew she was sexually active and I warned her about what could happen. I decided I could trust her with my story, so I told her. My sister was shocked because she always resented me for being the "perfect one" (I hated that she always called me that). I wanted her to know that even those who seem perfect still have to deal with something.
I was an honor student, I waited until I was 18 to have sex, I never did drugs, I went to college, I was involved in many activities and I still got herpes. We became close and I tried to be there for her when ever she had a problem. But one day after an argument because of the stupidest misunderstandings she storms off to her friend's house. A few minutes later the phone rings and I let the answering machine take it, I knew it was her and I knew what was coming. Sure enough when I went back to listen...."you *#&#*$& herpes infested whore....." i'm sure she continued for a while but I deleted it there. Since then she has told distant relatives, people that don't need to know, and refers to me as "herpes" on her myspace just to tear down that "perfect" image she thinks everyone has about me. It's been a year since then and we still haven't talked. Not because I'm angry, because I'm willing to forgive and forget if she could apologize. But she won't and she puts all the blame on me. I would never maliciously tell people about her drug problems, eating disorders, the fact that she can't remember some of her sexual partners, the number of times we've had to take her to the hospital or mental hospital for attempted suicides or the fact she is a dropout; but she didn't even have to think twice about doing it to me. I prepared myself for this outcome when I decided to tell people my story but never did I think MY OWN SISTER would turn against me. I should have known she'd find any reason to do this. I stopped making visits to my mom's house because I couldn't take the vile names she'd scream to me while I visited. I'm praying she grows out of this vicious stage so that we can move on and be a family again.
anybody dealing with something similar?

Answer:
That really is a bit of a crappy stroy. Your sister sounds like she has real problems - probably a personality disorder. I think you need to get as much support as you can. Maybe a family member that you CAN trust. Your sister has to live with what she's done. It's not so much what she's told people it's the motive behind it - simply to hurt you. She needs help or she needs to be avoided, maybe both. I wish you luck.

Answer:
Wow. I take it your sister is still a minor? Because she is certainly behaving like one. Hopefully she will grow out of this stage. Eating disorders and addictions may be contributing to her mental immaturity. Your family needs to have some guidelines...while you're at your mother's house, your sister should not be permitted to scream at you and bad-mouth you, assuming your mom is there.

Would family counseling be an option? Otherwise, if you can...try to be the "bigger" person through this. Don't allow her to bait you with her vicious comments, her goal is to drag you down to where she is.

Good luck...