Question:
I found out last month that I have herpes and I have been with my husbad for 6 years. My doctor told me that it doesn't mean that my husband cheated and that either one of us could have acquired it before we were together. But how common is that? Is it more it likely that the virus has been sitting dormat in one or both of our systems and suddenly showed an out break so many years later or is more likely that he may have cheated (I know that I didn't cheat) and now I am paying the price of it. The saving grace is that I know my husband loves me and we have a great healthy relationship. But there is that nagging voice inside of me saying, "Oh you sweet naive woman." I just want to know if people have been in long term relationships and years later find out they have herpes.

Answer:
Hi,

It's common. Your body can get the herpes virus, and doesn't show any symptom for years or never has symptom.
Our body immune system keeps us from getting outbreaks even if we have herpes virus in our body. We get outbreaks when our immune gets weak (when you are sick, you are tired physically, and when you are under stress...). So your husband might've been having herpes for a long time. Or if you had previous relationship before your husband, it's possible that you got the virus from him and didn't know it..

If your husband doesn't have any symptom and doesn't know if he has the virus or not, I think he should get a blood test also. It's important for both of you to know the status. Then you can take care of both of your health..

So please don't judge him or doubt him. Be open, and talk to your husband. If he says he never cheated, and you sense that he's been honest, just believe him.
I got herpes type-2 from my boyfriend at that time. He never had obvious outbreak or any symptom. He denied that he had herpes, and he told me that I must've been sleeping around. I never cheated, I never sleep around. It hurts so bad when someone you love don't believe you although you are deadly honest.

Please talk to him, and you can work it out.
The important thing, is to care about each other.

Best wishes..


Faith

Answer:
Thanks Faith! I needed to hear that! Best wishes to you too!