Question:
So I discovered two days ago that I might have oral HSV1 in addition to genital HSV1. I guess the girl I slept with 3 months ago really was the herpes jackpot.

It's SO hard to concentrate at work nowadays. I feel like my previously blooming sexual life was nipped in the bud. I was just starting to enjoy my single status (a "gift" from my cheating first love). I hate this. I know I have so much potential to do good. I want to become a great doctor who heals patients with unparalleled knowledge and empathy. I'm already partly there - I have an awesome resume, great MCAT score, lots of experience with medicine.

So it's ridiculous that I grapple with ideas of suicide every so often. I know I won't do it because I'm too afraid of the pain. But if you told me there was a quick and painless way to do it that wouldn't harm those in my life, I would probably take up your offer.

I know - I need therapy. I've needed therapy ever since my mother passed away from cancer 2.5 years ago. Instead, I tried to get over her by drinking and pouring my all into my first love. And after both of those escapes failed me... this bugger called herpes enters my life.... and now everything looks a bit duller and colder. I'm looking for therapy. And tomorrow I'm meeting with my pastor (yes, I've returned to God finally after 8 years of ignoring the church).

I'm so messed up. I want to fall asleep and never wake up.

Answer:
Man, you and me need to go out for a (non-alcohol) beer. If I told you my story you'd prolly feel better. I would kill to have your resume and marketability. Sounds like you have lots of potential to create something in the world.

HSV is a huge problem and you seem to be someone who could do something about it. Maybe HSV is your calling? Or not necessarily HSV but std's or some other similar field. You seem to be able to relate to people, and there's so much anguish out there because of this friggin disease. Why not be a case worker or therapist? Nearly everyone here says that no professionals can relate to them.

I'm not feeling too good myself. I think about suicide. I know how you feel in some respects. Time will force change as it always does, I guess we just have to guide it in a positive direction.

Answer:
both of you need to get some serious counselling asap!!!!

There is no reason in the world to kill yourself over herpes!!!!! the only people who SHOULD kill themselves are the ones who have it and KNOWINGLY, WILLINGLY and MALICIOUSLY give it to people. I would LOVE to hang the bastard who gave it to me (who by the way, worked in the medical field too!) but....he doesn't deserve for me to exert such energy on him. He is a worthless turd in doctors clothing.

But you two, man, I know it is depressing and frustrating, it can be painful, it can be embarrassing.....it drive ME crazy sometimes.....BUT...I just can't...just REFUSE to let it get me down!!!! You both need to go through this "grieving period" but you DO need to seek some additional help. I will tell you both what I told another gal on this MB.....suicide is usually due to some other things in your life, not herpes. The herpes can be merely a cayalyst...the icing on the cake if you will.

But hopingseeking, you talk about your mum passing, you gal gone and now herpes....I am sure the stress of med school too isn't helping matters at all! God, what I would GIVE to be able to go to med school (I am really smart...but not THAT smart, nor do I have the moola to indulge in such a thing) My hats off to you!!!!! There is so MUCH you can do with your life, so much to contribute to the world. Hell, maybe YOU can be the one who goes into research and finds some type of CURE or reliable vaccine for non-h infected people! Seriously, think about it! and because you HAVE H, you WILL be more empathetic to those others who have it! You can be such an asset to humanity and to think you would seriously consider exterminating such a bright light....I dunno, please, you know what you need to do....seek help!


JRT JRT....I hope too that you seek some help, and please don't ever harm yourself. Sounds like though you have a good positive outlook. We ALL get grim from time to time. Hell everytime I DO have an outbreak, I get bummed out, I get mad....even depressed. But we just have to make ourselves pop back up, stay strong.


I wish I could buy you BOTH a nice cold (non-alcohalic ) beer. I would give you both super sized big hugs, and smack on the ass, and say drink up...we will be OK! ;-)

Answer:
Hey...if it's any consolation, I hit the STD jackpot as well. I have both types, but it isn't stopping me from living.

They're cold sores, and that's really about it. Sure, they're a nuisance at times- but they aren't going to shorten your life expectancy. They also don't change the essence of who YOU are. Cold sores also doesn't mean you're unworthy of being in a rewarding relationship.

I always find it funny when people joke around about STDs when in fact, many of those folks (you know, the one's who claim to be "clean") have it themselves but just don't know it yet.

Heck, I used to be one of those people.

Cold sores are incredibly easy to transmit, so it's really no wonder why so many people have it. Heck, chicken pox and shingles are but a few other varieties of the herpes virus.

So if you've had the chicken pox, YOU have had herpes. Which means most people have experienced herpes at least once in their lives.

Muwwaaahaaaahaaaa.