Question:
The reins of life have pulled me in. I can no longer enjoy what nature endowed me with, my body. It's a waste of time to think about it but there isn't a way not to. How do I go from naturally sensual/sexual to totally bridled by a a natural cause??? I don't know what to do so I guess it's in God's hands now.

I'd welcome some input, as I know others have decided to keep sex in their lives but, that isn't always an option for all, sometimes it's just not going to happen under whatever circumstances one finds oneself in. I'm at the crux of my life trying to figure out my life all over again. It feels like a major crisis! :???::confused::(:mad:


Answer:
well
i haven't been on this forum for a while, so i seem to have missed what exactly you're suffering from.
it seems to me that herpes has changed many, if not most, people on this forum. some people have changed drastically- it alters their usual mood, how they see certain situations, what they eat, their sex lives.

it changed me a lot, and i don't have ghsv. i have ohsv, but it's so constant that it has changed my sex life, too. plus i wear it on my face! everyone tells me not to make a big deal out of it, but i can't help that it has changed me. i feel like it not only limits my sex life and the things i can eat, but also whether i feel like going out, how well i'm able to concentrate, and even how effectively i communicate with other people. i tend to mutter something and turn away quickly, keep my head down, to avoid showing off the sore.
i must say i really like the way you said "crux of your life." you're quite poetic. :)
i think, i hope, that soon enough we'll both be able to deal effectively with this; that it won't seem like so much of a burden, or a crux.

Answer:
Thanks, wonderwall, for the reply. I sounded poetic on purpose, of course, and I do like to write! I know that someday maybe I'll feel different but I'm doubtful. Life has a way of throwing us curve balls just when we think it's safe or when it seems to be getting too good. Story of my life!

Answer:
i feel lost at this point in my life too, being a newly diagnosed victim to this virus. i always try to live my life by "everything happens for a reason" but it is tought to accept that when dealing with this. why on earth does herpes have to happen for a reason, but i guess you could ask that question for anything, death, failure, personal loss, etc.????

we will perservere; we will be stronger, better people from this......at some point.....once we accept, cope and deal with the hand that was dealt us.

think positively, that is what i try to do, although this particular monday morning, i am having a difficult time doing so. i think i shall step outside for some fresh air and sunshine for a moment or two and regroup.......:)

ps; everybody on this site is here for the same reason, has been through the same stages of emotions and feelings as us, and we are all here for each other.