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::Sigh::
It's a great feeling. We've been dating for like two months now. We talk everyday, we have so much in common, and the best part about it is, it's all on a mental level. Things are going slow because he lives 2 hours from me, and we see eachother on the weekends. Sooner or later the relationship conversation will come up, and I'm wondering if I should protect myself and tell him now, thus losing the greater risk of heartbreak now than waiting until he asks me to be his girlfriend. He's an awesome guy, I've never met anyone like him, he feels the same way...
I know that somewhere someone is meant to be with me, I hope it's him, but if it's not, I wonder if I should just get it over with.

The dillema... wait till they love you so they have to accept it,
or tell sooner so I can protect what's left of my heart. :?:

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The dillema... wait till they love you so they have to accept it,
or tell sooner so I can protect what's left of my heart. Honestly... I'd wait until the sex issue comes up, or until things start to reach the sex level.

Then again, if the bond you feel is strong enough, it may be good for YOU to get it off your chest now. Its a big stress reliever to tell.

As long as he knows before he's put at risk, that is fair.


As far as your heart... You're already in... Its gonna hurt now if it ends, its gonna hurt later if it ends...

Nothing wrong with giving him a chance to get to know YOU before he has to think about 'it'.

In a perfect world people wouldn't let their prejudices get in the way, but in reality, we ALL have passed over things and opportunities because we let the cover dictate what was in the book.

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First off, congrats on such an exciting relationship. I agree that telling when the sex topic comes up is best, but there are people other there that will feel you betrayed them for not telling sooner. There is never a great time to bring it up, but sometimes when you least expect the opportunity it is there for you. Just be honest, it's the best way to tell if it's meant to be or not.

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I agree...
I think I should wait, it's just on my chest, I'd feel better if I got it off,
I've never benefited from rushing things. So I think it's best to wait.
It's just that we have been very honest about a lot, and I want to tell him everything about me...
but, we haven't talked about sex yet, which is really cool... no one has really seen me worth anything more than sex
which is why it was hard for me to deal with HSV-2, I felt I lost my worth...
I know I never would have found it without HSV-2... kind of ironic.

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but there are people other there that will feel you betrayed them for not telling sooner I agree that there are people like this...

But generally, the kind of person (like that) who, after having YOU muster up the courage to tell something so personal...

If they can't put aside the selfish propensity to immediately jump to the victim role... they probably aren't a very understanding person in general....

And as far as people like that.... Fuck em... You don't need them in your life... :wink:

just my humble opinion of course.

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you DID NOT lose your worth, never think that. Easier said than done I know, but at the end of the day, Herpes is not life threatening. I sometimes feel that same way, as if I lost my worth, then I look around at other people much worse off than me (terminal) and realize that as sucky as this disease it, I'd rather have this than cancer. And there are people out there who are OK with this... I wrote about my experience earlier this week - I found an amazing man who said to me "don't sweat the small stuff". Hope you find the same thing is this one! Best of luck!

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It's just that we have been very honest about a lot, and I want to tell him everything about me... I completely know the feeling. But everything in its good time...

On a side note... IF he asks I would of course NOT lie and tell him right away instead of putting it off til later.

(not that people go around asking if you have an STD but)

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It would save me a lot of anticipation if he asked...
I would never lie to him
It's just eating at me inside...
but, like you all said, the right time will come, and I have a feeling he will be accepting, we're in no rush to be intimate... it's so fulfilling just talking to one another...
::sigh::
hahaha, I feel like I'm in High School ...

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BTW, where is this??