Question:
It might be my own fault, but I'm heavily involved in the nightlife in the city I live in--only for work reasons. So the fact my bosses have placed me on leave from work and that I am trying to avoid people I know has suddenly led to a rush around town about "what's wrong" with me.

I got a text message today from someone saying I should be careful about what I post on LiveJournal... nothing there is viewable to people not on my friend's list & I haven't said ANYTHING about having H on there.

This person happens to be the one I *may* have spread it to. I haven't heard from him in days, he didn't reply to an email I sent him, and now while he's out of state I get messages that mention that the "five degree" rule is true.

I feel sick to my stomach. I want all these people to leave me alone and quit trying to comfort me when I honestly hate my life.

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I was trying to find the yahoo convo from some anonymous person who decided to tell me I gave him herpes... he threatened me... and my family in the conversation... I later found out who the person from yahoo was... and he was my recent ex.... that was like 3 years ago... and as it turned out... his ex before me has herpes and told me... and he had threatened her as well... I have never had a symptom and only know because he threatened me... I guess as a way to tell me I was exposed... so I went and got tested.... and boom... I was positive... something I wasn't when I was tested before dating him...

Bottom line... some people are immature idiots.... they have no clue how to respect others... the threats... the teasing... all of that is grammar school.... but in this you get to find out who your REAL friends are... they won't play the games...

For me... I came out... I talk about the herpes... and to people who we both know.. why?? because he doesn't... and he goes from girl to girl pretending he is clean..... so I tell everyone who talks to him about my herpes... and about dating him... I let them put two and two together... so he can't say I am slandering his name....

as I have said in other threads.. I put it out there so people will know... ANYONE can get herpes... there is no stereotype... just people... all different kinds of people.... and anyone that thinks they are immune to it... needs their head checked...

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ANYONE can get herpes... there is no stereotype... just people... all different kinds of people.... and anyone that thinks they are immune to it... needs their head checked...
Thats true anyone can funny thing is alot of men just use woman for sex and herpes is kinda a way that says hey if you really care about me then you really care about me. People tend to get upset especially men but woman too. My girlfriend didn't want to tell me right away but after me trying to feel her up really getting kinda sexual she had to lol.

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I'm going to sound like a complete jerk right now, but I accept that. I remember hearing about a girl that had herpes (but didn't) and the way it traveled through the grapevine in the.

I remember thinking to myself, "well she's a huge slut so she deserves it."

And this is now ringing in my ears. I've taken part in it. I know all the stigmas because I've been the one saying them. Except now I'm on the other end of the finger, the foul words, and the viewpoint people have.

I slept with the wrong person, it's that simple. But that really doesn't have me feeling better. Does this mean my viewpoints on STD's haven't changed over the years? No. But I sure feel extra-shitty right now.

The friends I have told are all very supportive and keep telling me it's not my fault. Most of them live out of state so even if they say anything nobody knows who I am. But they aren't exactly volunteering to date me, y'know?

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When I think about my girlfriend she is hsv2 and I don't have any hsv at all. I think sometimes if I was the one with hsv she would prolly dump me but it does change who you are and sometimes for the better. They say people that are in thair last walking day's of cancer love life more then they ever had before ever in some situations. As people we tend to take precious things granted.

I plan to treat my girlfriend and pleasure her like I would any other girl reguardless I mean its been months and we are very much falling in love and I would take any diease she has for love. :)

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My best friend (or so I thought) told me it's my own fault.

I hate crying.

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Don't cry people that think like that aren't your friends be strong I promise everything will be ok feel free to message me if you wish I have all my im info in my profile and above your over here ^^ anything I can do to make you not cry I will:)

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Has your best friend ever slept with anyone without asking the partner first to get tested for herpes? Either he/she is a eunuch or they probably have slept with someone without fully knowing their herpes status... esp since it's not standard for most docs to test for it.

This could have happened to her, too. It doesn't just happen from one night stands. People often catch it from someone they are seriously involved with... and from asymptomatic shedding! Wives who've only been with their husband catch it from oral sex. Your friend clearly doesn't know much about H and clearly has a lot of prejudices... :(

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Devils advocate here...

On some level... unless we were raped or molested... it is our fault...

we could have gone with the person to get tested....

waited to see if we were both negative....

waited 6 months....

got retested...

waited to see if we were both negative....

then have safer sex....

but I think we all live in the world where we trust the other person about not having any STD's.... trust is an double edge sword.... I blamed myself at first.... and had every reason too... I didn't question him about his status or make him get tested.... I put my need to be with him above my sexual health...

had I known he had it... would I still have been with him... that is a really good question... in which I don't have an answer... as I wasn't given that opportunity...

I am thankful that my current man understood.... and I am yet to meet a man who didn't...

as for how you think about people with STD's.... hopefully that will change...

people who love you... will end up understanding and supporting you... and if they don't... well... they weren't your friend...