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so the guy I have been dating for about 8 months.. cheated on me... found out because she found me... now... I am not too sure I give a crap about him... because cheating is something I can never deal with... and can't really forgive... BUT... here in is my damn issue... he knows about the Herpes... and the HPV... and we have ALWAYS had the safest sex I know how to have.... but now I feel like fuck... is it my responsibility to tell her too??? I mean she was having sex with a man who was having sex with a woman with HPV and HSV.... and I know his mouth isn't going to tell her... so where does my disclosure requirements end???? as far as I know... and his last tests.... he is negative... but.... I just know that there is still 6 months or more before he is out of the woods...

my guess is if I tell her... she will just think it is me being bitter about her and him... which is funny... never get why a woman thinks she won something if she gets a man to leave another woman....

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It's always awful to find things out that way. You're right -- it shouldn't be a "conquest" for that other person. It's like -- Congrats! You've just won the short-term attention of a jackass!

Sorry you had to find out this way. I don't know what to tell you about that other girl... but remember that by not telling her, you're putting HER future partners (excluding your exbf) at unknowing risk, too. If you tell her and she doesn't believe you, doesn't care, or doesn't have it, at least it's not on YOUR conscience. Dunno, but best of luck.

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LMAO.... at the short term attention of a jack ass... I just figure... if someone cheat with you... they will cheat on you..

as for the herpes thing.. I have always told my partners.... and hate the idea that now I have to wonder if they are telling their other partners...where does my responsibility end and the others begin???

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I think it is not your responsibility to tell your exes present and/or future partners.

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I think it is not your responsibility to tell your exes present and/or future partners.
That is what my thoughts were... I just feel like sometimes... I need to wear the t-shirt... so everyone knows.. and this way... if some how someone catches it from me.. or from an ex of mine... there won't be anyone saying... she didn't say anything... :(

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I think you should tell her......... I would LOVE to find the girl that my ex is sleeping with right now for reasons I won't go into---it has become a legal issue.... but, put it this way, he goes around sleeping with girls, not telling them he has it, and infects them.... thats what he did to me!!! oh, btw he is a doctor :mad:

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Unbelievable,

I think you've fulfilled your responsibility by disclosing to him. It's up to him to mention his health risks to his partners.

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So sorry hun. I do feel it's up to him to tell her, but yet this is also why these stds are so rampant, you know. :confused: BTW - I love the attention span/jackass comment! How fitting!! I can relate as my so called "husband" cheated on me as well. My heart goes out to you. Hang in there.

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I am glad people think it is on him... because it really isn't anything I wanted to deal with... since she already thinks what happened is funny...


I am forever grateful for the jack ass quote... that made my week...