Question:
I kinda got the same question,it's been well over a month since my first--initial outbreak of 5 or 6 small ,painless pimple like soars on my dick.Everything feels good & normal.My question is if I have no soars & all feels ok am I still morally(legally?) obligated to disclose I had 1 episode(I pray no more) of herpes even if I am going to use a condom or is there an assumed risk that both partners should know when you engage in sex that you may get an std?I would certainly like a long term committed relationship but until I find her I would still love to have sex sometime and feel if I tell any perspective partner about H she will run to the door!

Answer:
My question is if I have no soars & all feels ok am I still morally(legally?) Legally, I've never heard of anyone getting sued or prosecuted over getting HSV from someone.

BUT I know for a fact that people have been prosecuted for knowingly giving someone HIV. (I believe the charge was reckless endangerment)

Legal decisions usually rely on precedence, and the precedence has been established for people to be prosecuted for not disclosing information that they are aware of that has the potential to cause injury (in the legal sense) to another individual.

I think its unlikely that you would ever be prosecuted, but then again... Looking at the judicial system today, not much suprises me.

Certainly if a person chose, they could file a civil suit.

But anyway...

MORALLY.... Well, my morals and your morals may not be the same but..

I think you know the answer to this question already.

You know in your heart that you would want a girl to tell you... so do the right thing and tell her...


is there an assumed risk that both partners should know when you engage in sex that you may get an std? Just my own personal opinion here... DON'T be like so many people in this country and try to shirk accountability.

DON'T look for a way to weasel out of being a man.

HSV is something you have... But it isn't you... Walk with your head high.. HSV is nothing, just be honest... THAT is something!

I would certainly like a long term committed relationship but until I find her I would still love to have sex sometime ok, more personal opinion here... Its only been a month since you got HSV, and you are already thinking about casual sex again... DUUUDE... Did getting HSV make ANY impression on you????

Regardless... Thats just my opinion...

and feel if I tell any perspective partner about H she will run to the door! Well... Wouldn't YOU? I mean think about it... Girls can get casual sex from most ANY guy. If just casual sex was all a chic wanted, why would she take a risk with someone who has HSV????

I'm not sure, cause I have only a very little bit of experience with casual sex post-HSV (had lots of experience PRE) but I think looking at the probability of things... I think you'll still find a couple of chics that will be willing to have casual sex, take the risk, and leave it at that...

HOWEVER I GUARENTEE that if you re-focus on finding a committed relationship before you start looking to get laid, you will find that very very very few women will let HSV cause them to 'run'.

I've had 9 serious relationships, and had to tell someone I was in love with 9 times that I had HSV, and it noone ever ran because of it.

However, I'm just speculating, but if I was just offering casual sex, not my love, I bet lots of them would have declined that.

Anyway... I'm not trying to be condecending... I'm a guy, and I KNOW how much fun getting laid is.

But the older I get, the more I become of the mindset that if I'm not in love with a chic, wacking off is just as good as casual sex. (of course wacking off is not even CLOSE to as good as sex with someone you love)

But anyway...

Think about it... If you are horny... Wack it, and 2 minutes later, you are go back to doing whatever task you were doing. If you sleep with a chic you aren't interested in a relationship with, then you have to do the whole cuddle-time thing, and deal with all the emotional strings (cause lets face it... EVEN if a girl says its just sex, its USUALLY not... USUALLY they want more...) Anyway...

Wackin off is way better... :wink:

Answer:
You are absolutely right.I don't think I could do it with someone without warning them.Your also right there is a big difference between making love to someone you really care about and just having sex.No I have defenitely learned a hell of a lesson from all this,and the next person I sleep with will be someone I would want to be with for life..........til then, ya, guess I'll just have to beat it!