Question:
I have so many questions and looking for answers.. My lady friend just found out she has herpes (genital) ---- am I scared yes because of lack of knowledge I'm not leaving her Fell into love some time ago
Have been checked and do not have herpes. So now you know that we are both together emotionally and mentally-------my next question is sexually?
What can be done what can't be done When and How.
Don't think that these questions vague they are not. They come from my heart to help her out.
Any type of honest answer is appreciated in all areas.
If a female is answering this question What outside of standing by her side can I do for her.
Thank you

Answer:
Love her. Love her. Love her. All the time.

Help her to listen to her body. Love her body.

Help her to love herself more.

Herpes can be dormant most of the time - tending to erupt in times of stress and when your body is out of balance.

Join with her to keep her emotionally balanced, happy even, and take it from there.

Other people say different, but when herpes is dormant normal sex is probably OK. You have to make your own decisions there.When it is active, sex is painful.

Read as much as you can and make your own informed decisions.

Wishing you well,

Alison

Answer:
It is great to see that you accept this girl with the virus. I admire you and I truly believe that your feeling for her must be pure.

It was the hardest thing for me to tell my partner...but I'm glad i did. He has been by my side for 4 years and he has not been infected.

Gather as much information as possible and enjoy your life together.

EnjoyLife

Answer:
Stick by your girl she needs you. Don't ever make her feel bad or dirty that is the key.

Answer:
I found out six months ago. 5.5 months ago I met the greatest man in the world (he 43 and me 37). Our relationship grew and we fell in love. We're both divorced and have children. When I realized that we were falling in love I told him I was infected with genital herpes. Of course he was floored but we continued getting to know one another and our love grew deeper. His main concern was that of his daughter. He wanted to know if she could be infected through blood. He was first told "no" but one of those nurse on calls. Then we went to see my doc and was told that there was less than 10% chance that she could be infected but a higher probability that she would not. This scared him BIG TIME. I have only had one outbreak and it was very minimum. But when he asked my doctor how the outbreaks would affect him, and she told him it varied depending up the overall health of the person, but some have serious and very painful outbreaks, well you guessed it, he got more scared. Consequently, the fear has overwhelmed him and after 5.5 months, he decided he couldn't be with me anymore despite his love for me.

My question is this: Is there anything I can do to help alleviate some of that fear. I know the facts are the facts, but the fear has consumed him so much that he doesn't even want to see me. Our love is real and to go from planning a future to having no future doesn't sit too well with me. I believe in our love and I believe he's my match, but unless there's something that I can do or say to alleviate some of that fear, all is lost.

Suggestions please?

Answer:
I too have a similar story. the guy who loved me, but didn't love me enough to make the sacrifice..... all I can say is love her. you can have a sex life, but it varies with different people. I myself get an outbreak every time i have sex. so basically if i'm with someone, only once a week :cry:

it's hard- i'm not going to lie. she needs your support. she'll probably ask you alot, if you still want to go on. if you do........ she needs that reassurance, if not, don't hesitate- let her know- please do not drag it out. that's what happened to me. If you are fully committed to this wonderful woman, you have a great chance of getting herpes some day, the risk will be higher. so please, make sure that this is really what you want.