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I'm 22 yrs old, fem, and just got genital herpes (orally)... the pain was unbearable cause i had an urinal infection at the same time. i went to the doc and gave me anti-biotics for the infection and valtrex for the herpes ... the tests are not confirmed but by her experience she says she's 95% sure it's herpes... i pray to god i have nothing else... the pain is almost gone ... it turns out that I am so paranoid about everything now. I try not to stress myself cause i heard that it causes outbreaks, but if i think about it too much, how can i not stress... I'm scared i have other kind of diseases, that if i go out in the sun it will cause other outbreaks... I always wanted to meet mr right but now I'm ashamed... how would i tell him or when... if i tell him right away he might leave and not even get to know me... I'm a very sweet girl that has regretted some of my sexual past... almost every night i call health lines to ask any kind of questions about STD, it has become an obsession... a very scary one... I am traumatised in just the thought of having anything else, anything worse... I can't stop thinking about it... i am going to get tested for stds but am very scared of the results
Am i the only one????
from a very scared girl..

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I feel your emotional pain. Let's hope your test will come back negative, if not you will actually feel relieved that you finally know. If the test is positive please try and remember these few words of advice. It's okay to cry and be depressed for a while. You are not dirty and you are not less of a woman. It's a virus that many people have and many don't even know they have it. You will be lucky enough to know either way. I personally know of 4 people with genital herpes. Remember, you are not alone.
All the feelings that you are experiencing right now are very normal. I was scared too, but I'm coping much better now. Having herpes doesn't change who I am. Yes, it has changed my sexual behavior but I am still a good person with a lot to live and a lot to offer.
Love yourself first and foremost. Yes, you can still get married to a mature and loving person. Yes, you can still have children. I wish you the best.

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Just remember there is nothing wrong with you. If you meet someone to spend the rest of your life with and they can't get past this very minor inconvience, then they didn't really love you in the first place.

My girlfriend was just diaganosed with this and I'm currently waiting to take a Pockit test to find out if I have been carrying this myself. It's a very scary moment, but I believe you'll feel better once you know for sure and even then you'll be suprised how small of an effect this will have on the quality of your life.

There are SO many worse things that can happen to you in your life. You never know what curveballs you'll be thrown on this journey. Don't lose your sanity over this.

-W

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I need help. I am having a Hard time talking about this...PLEASE email me with some info.

denver7elway@aol.com

Katie

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I found I had herpes at the age of 19 from university health services and I nearly fell off the table. The doctor told me the same thing they told you she wasn't sure until the test came back but she was 99% sure from experience that it was herpes. Nobody was home that day and I almost cried myself to death. My mother made me feel like a tramp. I didn't have sex for 7 months after i found out and just like you i have a pretty serious sexual history. I would like to erase 70% of it if i could. WHen I started having sex again again I made some more mistakes that could have cost me my life. God spared me and I met a wonderful guy. when I first met him he wanted me to be his girlfriend and I told him you don't know anything about me. I made a vow to myself that I would not date anyone else unless they were going to be my husband. I will be 23 at the end of this year and i met my boyfriend/fiance a little over a year ago. We met at the library on campus about a week after we met and i kept saying u don't know anything about me and he said what "you got something" and i said "yes I have herpes now do you still want to be with me". He paused and said I don't want to be your friend I want to be more than that, he said he wanted to be part of my life forever. He din't have any diseases and he was willing to be with me and I have herpes. Also this is the big kicker he is in fraternity and I thought he was just out for the ass, but he wssn't. I remember thinking he was going to tell the whole campus but he didn't. We just had a beautiful baby girl and I thought i would never find anyone to have a baby with.

sorry that this was lengthy, but the moral of the story is that life does get better and it is not what happens to you it is how you deal with what happens that matters.

so just hold on and I promise it will get better.

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Hi,
I was recently diagnosed with Herpes as well. The kicker to my situation is, that I got it from the second guy I've slept with. I'm 18, soon to be 19. The first guy I slept with was my first love. We grew apart and I broke up with him in October of last year. I started dating my current boyfriend at the end of May. He didn't know he had Herpes. But we were both at fault for my contracting it. We didn't use protection very often. I know we should have and I seriously regret having been so stupid and impulsive. But what's done is done. Sometimes I'm ok with having Herpes. I just think "Hey, this isn't the worst thing that's ever happened to me." And at other times I get really depressed about it. Like, I wonder, "Do I have to tell every person I sleep with that I have Herpes? even if I make sure he uses protection?" "Will a guy want to date me once he finds out." I know that if a guy really loves me, it won't matter. But what if a guy could be a true love in different circumstances. For example, if a guy doesn't get to know me because I have Herpes, what if he was my soul mate. I don't really know if I believe in soulmates and all that, but it was just the easiest word to use in the sentence.
Are other people going to think I'm a slut because I have Herpes? Will they think this and not even listen when I say that I've only slept with 2 people?
I'm starting college in a week and sometimes I feel depressed and lost. If anyone would like to talk to me, feel free to email me. I could really use some advice and some answers.
Thanks

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oops, I posted just now and I wasn't logged in. So now I'm logged in and you can know who posted the previous message.
Sorry for the inconvience

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I'm 17, and going through my first outbreak right now. It's really painful. I had unprotected sex with 2 women about 3 years ago. The virus must have remained dormant until now. I've been with this girl for a little over a year, and I asked her to marry me a couple months ago. She said yes. As soon as the outbreak started about five days ago, I knew what I had and told her immediately. She told me that she loves me for who I am and that she wants to stay with me forver. I don't thank any higher power for this, because I am an atheist, but it just goes to show that there are still some decent people left in this world.

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Maybe you wouldn't have got herpes if you weren't an athiest....