Question:
I have been going through the older threads to see what answers there are so thanks for all the information but just want to reinforce some things.

I intend to have an active sex life but do not want to pass it on to others so will take the following steps but would like some feed back.

1) The blisters I currently have are entirely within my foreskin so am assuming that using a condom for Genital and Anal contact when the Herpes is inactive will prevent me passing it on. (Unless the virus is present in the entire genital region that is.)

2) I should take the same precautions when receiving oral sex although I dont think I'd bother as I have tried it before and thought it a waste of time.

3) I will not pass on Herpes if I perform Oral sex on another person .

4) Do I need to take medication for the rest of my life? I'm still waiting for a second set of tests so have not had a full brief from my doctor.

Answer:
wearing a condom when not having an outbreak will still be putting someone else at risk .....condoms do not cover the whole area of the genitals which can be contagious as well.
It is not just where you get symptoms visibly that you are contagious from....it is anywhere in the boxer short region potentially so keep that in mind.
also, anyone giving you oral sex, protected or not still runs a risk of getting this from you regardless if you have symptoms or not. It is less likely to contract it from you if you have on a condom when oral sex is performed on you but the areas that might be touched or kissed that are not covered by the condom during this act can transmit the virus to the persons oral region as well so please also keep this in mind and remember to inform people of these very real risks before they decide to do anything like that.
You are right about if you only have it genitally then you can give someone oral sex and they cannot get it from you that way, however if you have sex with someone you might unknowingly pass it without symptoms to their genital region and then when you perform oral on them at a later time then you are at a small risk of getting it in your own mouth orally from their newly unknown genital infection. Just some food for thought. 50% of people wont show any symptoms of the disease but still carry it and transmit it asymptomatically at times,
Its not a guarantee someone will or will not get it, its just a risk ...a game of chance....that you can try and take as many precautions as possible to reduce but there is always a risk each and every time unfortunately.

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Also, keep in mind that if you're intending to not disclose your HSV status, i'm assuming you're also not asking for proof (or asking at all) about your partner's status. Knowing about this virus means not only taking steps to protect your partner, but also taking steps to protect YOURSELF. If you do engage in sexual relations of any kind with a partner whose STI history you don't know, you're running the risk of catching HSV in another location, or catching something worse. Knowing what you now do about STI's, it's important that you protect your partner AND yourself.

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About medication, there are lots of us here who don't take medication. Personally, i take an immune support supplement, and that's it. I'll probably be looking into other things in the future. Some people here take lysine, some avoid coffee and alcohol, etc. The important thing is to identify your trigger and take steps to minimize your chances of getting an OB. Even on suppressant medications, you can still get OBs and can still be contagious.

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Ok thanks for the replies , it seems I'm damned if I do and equally damned if I dont . Looks like a life of celibacy until I find an understanding partner .:(

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Do you really want a partner who's not understanding?

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Do you really want a partner who's not understanding?
Sorry I dont understand the question.:confused:

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I've found that half the battle is getting the outbreaks under control and have them happening less frequently. This is a sign that your immune system is keeping the virus from replicating and becoming active. This will reduce the chances of spreading it to a partner.

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Ok thanks for the replies , it seems I'm damned if I do and equally damned if I dont . Looks like a life of celibacy until I find an understanding partner .:( I just meant, you're concerned about celibacy until finding an understanding partner, but is having sex with people who aren't understanding really all that appealing? If you're celibate until finding someone understanding, what are you really giving up?