Question:
Ok I have a couple of questions.

How do you know when you will not be contagious? I mean people have protected sex with someone that has GH and some never get anything right?. but so does that mean you can never have oral sex? If you dont have to have a OB to pass the virus? And how can a woman get pregnant if the man has to use protection to stay clean from GH?

Is the answe to all these questions your partner just has to understand and not worry about getting GH? But then is my life going to never involve oral sex if I and (lord willing if I find a partner that will except this) my partner has GH?

I am not taking any medication for this. I have not once had an outbreak only the feeling of having a yeast infection. I have a lot of medical problems and my immune system is already very fragile. Taking valtrex is for people that have healthy immune systems. I am a health freak and I eat and work out regulary. But since I was raped and was given this disease I have been in lots of pain with my joints and bones. I have been so mentally messed up that I made myself sick. I hope it is not the actual herpes making me sick. thats what I am worried about. How am I going to go on with my life if I am constenly ill?? does anyone understand?

Answer:
I understand some of it. I too am a health nut. Then I get HSV and now all that health stuff seems like a joke. Some people get into health after herpes, but I'm doing just the opposite. I do think HSV is sometimes harder on people who were already focused or even obsessive about their health. A focus on health usually starts because they were trying to fix something, real or imaginary. Then something else comes along that they can't fix or can't get rid of. I am sure there are lessons in there somewhere which are revealing themselves with time, at least for me as I can't speak for anyone else's experience.

I have constant systemic irritations and slight nausea now, and the thought of having herpes "events" happen on and off for the rest of my life is psychologically debilitating. Plus having a virus packed away inside me which is just waiting for my immune system to weaken when I get old... so yea I do understand some of what you are going through.

Sorry to crap on your thread.

Answer:
I'll tell you what I do and hope it helps. I have ghsv. As far as I know my partner does not however, we had unprotected sex for 2 years before I found out this is ghsv. He knows my status as I told him immediately. Can't erase those 2 years.

I have always been healthy and up until a car accident last year went to the gym religiously every day. ate right and didn't party too much.

we still do not use condoms. I do take antivirals daily. I take vitamins daily and monitor myself for anything that seems weird like itching, tingling, vaginal stuff . . . oral sex not too much but that is a choice not a rule.

If I wanted to get pregnant I would be using the antivirals anyway. I use birth control that obviously isn't condoms. I will not have sexual contact if I think I'm having prodomal symptoms or an ob.

The first year is usually the worst and as time goes by symptoms and ob's should become less. Stress makes it worse in the beginning.

I advocate healthy habits and getting lots of sleep, lots of water, eating right, relaxing, spiritual growth, the whole mind, body spirit renewal. Try to give yourself time to heal before tackling these big things. Concentrate on being calm and getting your body happy again.