Question:
A long time ago, I had my boyfriend tested b/c it became a serious relationship and we used condoms. He came back positive for herpes and I freaked out b/c there were no physical signs at all.

So I went to my gynocologist and told her about him and that I did NOT want to get his virus! She told me that without him having any symptoms that I could not get the virus. She put me in on the pill and 3 weeks later, I got it and it was so horribly painful and terrible that I couldn't even walk! My boyfriend and I broke up and I felt so hurt by him and my doctor for not protecting me.

Since then I have had outbreaks whenever I have my period and work stress brings it on. I have been on Valtrex, Famvir, Acyclovir and nothing seems to really work, although the outbreaks have reduced in severity. NOt to mention the shame and embarrassment of having to deal with this emotionally and not being able to tell anyone.

My biggest regret was not suing her for medical malpractice, but I was so young and didn't know any better. I am trying to forgive her, but I still blame her although it was 12 years ago.

Has this occured to anyone else?

Answer:
Yes. There are LOTS of examples of this kind of crap information about.

However, given that is was 12 years ago, I'm not actually sure whether asymptomatic shedding was known about at that time.

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find out what the statue of limitations in your state/ on the subject is--- you might have 20 years before you cant sue her.

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What would you gain by suing? Save a lot of hassle. Vindication? But you would never get your life back as it was then. You've got a new one and the more positive route is to forgive her. Perhaps a note to her on the subject with new research finding would prevent someone else from havng your same fate. Who knows you may just get a letter of apology in the package. I bet she was only telling you what she knew then, not deliberately setting you up.

Christy

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If suing her makes you feel better, give you closure... but do you have evidence for doing that? And will it give you more mental stress to worsen your situation?
They should be sued, even last year after my diagnosis, I still heard some doctor claimed that "no symptom no transmission!" As doctors, they just don't care enough to educate themselves to take the responsibility for their patients.
But, the question here is, is it worth it to take it on by yourself as an individual? Think through the whole process what is going to happen, can you handle it? :(

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it would be your word vs a doctor...

they aint gonna admit they gave yoo the wrong advice..

it will be a case of they took the advice the wrong way..

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I would at least write her a note and let her know how her directions to you caused you a lot of suffering.

My Dr told me the same thing about gshv1. She said it is ok if the other person also hsv1- either orally or genitally. I am surprised she told you that you couldnt get hsv2 from your bf though. First of all, women easily get microtears and such, allowing the virus in. Also, you most likely didnt have hsv2 antibodies to protect you. damn, she should of at least mentioned betadinie feminine wash to use after sex.

So sorry she let u down.

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My doctor insisted the only way i could have gotten gential HSV2 was through intercourse. Considering i got my first symptoms a week after oral sex, i know she was wrong. She also insists the only way i can pass it is through intercourse. And this was LAST WEEK! We can't always trust doctors to know everything they should. I have discovered through my OB and my daughter's pediatrician... doctors are only part of our defense system. We have to take it upon ourselves to get all of the facts about things that might or do affect us. Sorry she let you down.