Question:
OMG!
Today was one of the best days I've had in a long..long time!
At this moment I am incredibly happy!
Which Freaks me out completely to think any further!!

When I was in Mexico (almost two months ago) I met a group of people at our hotel. For two weeks we all hung out together, and had a Blast! There was one single guy in the group and we spent most of our time together. We talked a lot, rode the banana boats together, played, went out to eat...Just enjoyed each others company. We exchanged emails and phone numbers when it was time to say goodbye. He said he would come and visit me sometime.

Well, Today was the day.
He drove down to see me. He picked me up for a visit and we spent the entire day together. It was fabulous! The day was gorgeous, the sun was shining, he had the top down on the car, and we drove through the scenic gorge...went to three water falls, to Hoods canal and watched wind surfers, went out to eat, and talked non stop.

We ended by having a drink sitting outside on the river. I was having such a nice time, it wasn't until this man was saying these wonderful things to me that made me think about my situation. I was looking at this great guy as he was saying..."I really enjoy being with you. I'm serious when I say I want to spend time with you. We have a ball together and I want to start seeing you". My head started spinning and not from the drink.

What am I going to do????!!!!
This is a great guy! This is someone I could see myself with for a long-long time kinda guy...a possible forever kind of guy. He's fabulous and I am terrified to have to speak those dreded words to him one day!
"I have herpes"
GAWD!

Throw me a line here...please...I need some help!
I deserve a nice life..I have a lot to give..I could make someone happy...I don't want to lose this because I have HSV!

This turned out to be a rant...but I don't want to re-write it. Sorry!
It was a stream of thought.

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If anyone can help me find the words to say when I have to tell him I would Greatly appreciate your input?
Thank you!

Shayna

Answer:
It's hard to tell someone what they should say to anyone else concerning something that might be a negative or positive in their lives, but I will tell you this. I wouldn't jus come out and say I have Herpes to someone who has no clue possible.
It's not like having AID's, Menengitas, or some other ailment that can possibly kill. It's a damper on one's life every once in awhile if treated, and from what I have learned in the short time of knowing I possibly have it is that it's harder for a female to give than a male to give to female.
So, with saying that, I would say that I would give him some litature to read so he can become educated about what it's all about, and go through it together. Get facts that explain it clear as possible, and he shouldn't be mad or upset at ya as long as you haven't had relations to that point.
He can only make an educated decision from there.

I wish you the best

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Well, Today was the day.
He drove down to see me. He picked me up for a visit and we spent the entire day together. It was fabulous! The day was gorgeous, the sun was shining, he had the top down on the car, and we drove through the scenic gorge...went to three water falls, to Hoods canal and watched wind surfers, went out to eat, and talked non stop.

We ended by having a drink sitting outside on the river. I was having such a nice time, it wasn't until this man was saying these wonderful things to me that made me think about my situation. I was looking at this great guy as he was saying..."I really enjoy being with you. I'm serious when I say I want to spend time with you. We have a ball together and I want to start seeing you". My head started spinning and not from the drink.

What am I going to do????!!!!
This is a great guy! This is someone I could see myself with for a long-long time kinda guy...a possible forever kind of guy. He's fabulous and I am terrified to have to speak those dreded words to him one day!
"I have herpes"
GAWD!

Throw me a line here...please...I need some help!
I deserve a nice life..I have a lot to give..I could make someone happy...I don't want to lose this because I have HSV!

This turned out to be a rant...but I don't want to re-write it. Sorry!
It was a stream of thought.[/quote]
Hey shayna girl, I am so happy for you. But you already know what to do. We don't necessarily have to tell you. But I'll give into anyway. LOL
When you feel like its the right time. The two of you have exchanged more than enough information, its about to get a little bit more deep, then you sit him down, tell him how you really feel about him. Bring up the topic of having relations, Ya know. Start to feel the conversation. Bring up the topic H. See how he responds. Then ask him if he'd still love you the same with or without it? Great men will stick by your side, through thick and thin. I am quite sure that if the two of you are feeling eachother, he'll stick with you.
In a couple more weeks I'll be asking you the same question, I bet.
Wanna know why? PM me ok. Shay
Bye gurly!!!!

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Shayna, feel so happy for you! Tell him when the moment comes...
I did that yesterday and he said was ok, then I asked him don't have to answer me so fast, think about it first.
We went swimming and dancing and talked for hours, then started to full around, things got heated up, I insisted to keep my clothes on. After caught up breath, I told him how good he feels, and I loved it, and asked him if he had anything to tell me, then I told him I have H and taking pills trying to keep it under control.
When I prepared to leave, he asked me to stay over, so it seemed still Ok. But I will give it a few days for him to think about it while keep meeting him...
Good luck for you!

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annyi,
Thank you so much. ;)
I'm excited for you too! It sounds like it went really well for you. That's so good to hear. I hope you will keep me posted on how it goes?!
Keep enjoying and I wish you all good things!!!

I know it won't be long before I have to break it to him.

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Thanks Shay. Um, I am not very optimistic though... dating is pretty tough in this area, even without any situations! So I would not blame on H if it doesn't work out... :rolleyes:

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Hey Shayna, tell him. He sounds like a great guy so I'm hopeful and sure that he'll have an open enough mind to know that you can have a healthy and happy relationship, even w/one partner having herpes. For all you know, he could admit to you the exact same thing. Blessings to you and your NEW relationship!

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Thank you so much Mrsbutterworth (love that name) lol

To be honest, it gives me so much anxiety when I think about it..I may have to do it over a drink. (if I don't run for the hills first)

No, he wouldn't have it himself. He was married to his highschool sweetheart forever. Sadly, She passed away from cancer.

Thank you for the sweet inspiration! :)

Shay


(side note: annyi...did u get my PM?)