Question:
i told this guy that i was seeing and we had gotten into a fight after i decided i didntwant to see him anymore b/c of stresses in my life, two jobs, court, newly diagnosed genital herpes, and the fact that it grossed me out that he talked to girls the age of my little sister... he asked why i had a problem with it... and i said it grossed me out and i thought it was disgusting... and then he got upset and insulted me by calling me disgusting... i didnt call him disgusting but just the thought of someone older that i was interested in would be talking to girls in high school still.... i am soooo hurt that he would call me disgusting... as if i dont already feel disgusting as it is.... i want him to know this but i dont think he will really care... this hurts so much now i cant even look in the mirror at myself...

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you realize he just said it to get back at you for calling him disgusting.
dont take it personal, hes imature.

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his choice; you can't say anything

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Just because someone says something cruel doesn't make it true. Often they are saying the worst insult they can come up with to purposefully hurt you.

You don't need to believe it.

It sounds like you didn't like his behavior and you spoke up, as you should, and he didn't like it. It's human nature to get defensive when someone points out something we are doing that we know isn't necessarily acceptable.

I'm sorry that this comes at a bad time for you but I want to commend you for speaking up for yourself and voicing your opinion. It may not have turned out the way you wanted at the time but it sounds like it needed to be said and I believe that there are better days ahead for you. You shouldn't have to stay with someone who doesn't respect your opinion.

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this site is really great for support and just relating and realizing that i am not alone.... it makes going thru this alot easier :) thanx everyone :D

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As was already stated, most times when people switch into that defensive mode, they'll just spit out whatever they think will hurt the most, regardless of if they even believe it or not. I know it's hard, but you need to try and let things like that slide - anyone that petty shouldn't have their opinion valued anyway.