Question:
I just got the results. Genital herpes, first outbreak, no antibodies, and a boyfriend who just had his first outbreak too. I feel so dirty. He is taking it a lot better than me and looking forward to being intimate again. I'm not ready yet. He understands and will wait, but...
I was hoping for some help and advise.

How long did it take other people to cope with it?
How did you cope with it?
How long did you wait to be intimate?

I just don't know what to do. I'm scared to have sex. I'm afraid it'll give me another outbreak or something. Just really depressed, I guess. Is all this normal?

I feel like I should be happy that my boyfriend has it too, so I don't have to worry about transmittion and he loves me and wants to stay with me.... I just can't break this funk. Any advise would be really welcome. Thank you

Answer:
come on guys... please help me out. I don't know what to do

Answer:
Give yourself all the time in the world to work out how you feel. If you need to wait to have sex again that is perfectly alright.

Men and women heal differently and react differently to this virus and your guy is just going to have to accept your terms for your body. In no way should you feel obligated to have sex if you are not ready.

My major ob took at least a month to heal to the point that I felt okay about having sex again. For some people this time period is shorter and for others longer. It is up to you to decide when you are ready.

I take antiviral medications now. I also have a series of treatments I go through when I think the virus is active. I take vitamin supplements, make sure to get as much sleep as possible and drink lots of water. I also find it important to eliminate as much stress from my life as possible so that my immune system can be in tip top shape. Sometimes stress comes out of nowhere and you just have to deal with it.

Here are some links that might help you to find ways to cope.





my best to you. Keep your head held high and pamper yourself. :)

Answer:
hey nowwhat,

i am from jersey also. i was just diagnosed in may 07. i have not had sex since, and don't have a bf. i broke it off with the guy who i suspect gave this virus to me.

everything will work out. thank goodness your bf is patient. if he loves you, he will wait unti you are ready. you will know when you are ready, and when the time is right, go for it.

this is the place to be for answers and support, so hang in there.;)

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To NowWhat,

I want you to know that you are not alone and eventually it will get better. Believe me when I say, I felt the same way that you do now (maybe even worse). The one thing that stands out in your post is that your bf wants to stay with you and support you. If he is willing to wait for you, then please view that as something very positive. My bf did not support me in the beginning and I guess that is why I felt so bad on top of the physical pain.

To answer some of your questions. I was diagnosed in November 2006 and I really did not start to get over it until about March 2007. My ob did not subside until about the same time. I too felt as if I would not be intimate again, but not only have I been intimate again, I have also found someone who is very special and not only cares about me, but accepts me with this virus. I was apprehensive about having sex and when you start to feel better, it will happen. Not only will it happen, it will also be very special for you. If you will please take the time to read my posting titled, "Please Read: An Extreme Turn Around In 7 Short Months", it will outline for you the issues that I faced from my initial outbreak through the present. I wish you the very best and remember it will get better! If you would like to, you may send me a personal message. Take care of yourself. :)