Question:
This may be a long post; however, I feel that I need to say this in order to give others, who are struggling with herpes, some encouraging words. So, please try and read it.

If you have read any of my other posts, then you will know that I was diagnosed in November 2006. It was a very depressing, painful, and degrading time for me. The only thing that I new about herpes was that it did not have a cure and it can cause big, painful sores and lesions. Well, after researching herpes and experiencing it for myself, I quickly found out that was not the case. I know it is non-curable, but the classic symptoms that are described in every pamphlet you read are not what I experienced.

Initially, I had pain in my head, neck, shoulders, arms, back (upper/lower), stomach, groin, vagina, legs, and knees. It was so bad, until I could not walk up a flight of stairs. I experienced very, very bad pains in my body, not to mention, I also had a fever that would not go away. I was at an all time low point in my life and if were not for this forum, I probably would have faded away. My boyfriend at the time (the person who gave it to me) really did not support me at all. Each time, I would try and talk to him, he would get agitated and he even went as far as saying that I need to talk to someone else about it because he did not want to hear it. I thought that was extremely insensitive and cold. As time progressed, I started to examine my relationship with this guy. I honestly felt that I did not want to be with a man, who cannot support me during trials and tribulations. I also figured that I was holding on to this relationship simply because I knew that I would be rejected by a new person, once I told them about me having this virus.

Well, let us fast forward to June 2007. It is seven months later and I am no longer with my boyfriend and I have someone new in my life. I have to say the person that I am seeing is someone who has been a friend of mine for a while (roughly 10 years), so he is not a total stranger and that may have played a role in how he handled my news about me having herpes. About two months, we reconnected and he expressed his feelings about me. He told me that he wanted us to be together because he loved me and I had all of the qualities that he wanted in his future wife. At this point, I was feeling so nervous (I almost felt sick to my stomach) because I knew that eventually I would have to tell him about my diagnosis. Days and weeks passed, and as they passed I knew I had to tell him. So, one night, I was at his house and he started talking about things that were bothering him (selling his house and training for competition). Well, I felt this was a great time for me to tell him about my situation. Just as I started to tell him, I got nervous, but then I just let it out and his reaction was "Damn". He sat down on the bed and allowed me to continue to talk. I was so nervous that he was going to tell me to leave his house. He was on the way to workout, so I asked him if he wanted me to leave, but he said no and that we could continue to talk about it when he returned home.

Now, it is getting to the good part! I waited at his house, while he was gone and all I could do was think about what he was thinking about. A few hours later, he returned and I was still nervous. He came in, took a shower, and really did not say much about what I had told him. I was thinking that he had thought about it and he was going to tell me to forget it, but to my surprise he grabbed and held me close to him. He looked into my eyes and said that he loved me so much that it did not matter that I had herpes, it only matter that he wanted to be with me and it was worth the risk. He started to undress me and we made love all night long!

I know this post was pretty long, but I just had to express what I am feeling now. Just 7 short months ago, I was extremely depressed, in a lot of pain, and stuck in a relationship because I felt that I could not find someone who would accept me with the virus. Now, I am excited and energized and even when I am in pain, it is not as bad because I have someone who supports me and cares about me no matter what.

So, if you are feeling down, please believe that it will get better. I cannot tell you when or where, but just know that it will eventually!

Answer:
Hey Support1,

Congratulations!
I'm so happy for you...On many levels. Happy you examined your old relationship that wasn't good and left...and that you are with a great guy and happy now!
It goes to show, It can happen to any of us.
Thank you for sharing. :)

Enjoy...