Question:
I'm currently with one girl and shes been awesome.

Let me say that I got herpes from a sport (fighting, jiu jit su) and got it on my hands and have been crazy careful spreading it to my genitals. I'm a guy.

My first OD was in april and havnt had one since, ive been on valtrex since.

My current girl went threw it with me - and boy was it depressing as i was on accutane too which increased the depression, it was bad - to the point of thoughts of suicide.

My current girl is long-distance, and its getting too hard and before i was diagnosed, ive always deep down, kinda wanted to end it.

Problem is how great she is, shes loving, caring, is interested in my hobbies, perfect personality, seriously PERFECT. Only problem is the physical attraction thing, which i ignored all this time, but as time draws near for her wanting to visit me in person, i wanted to end it.


Once i was diagnosed, i figured i could NEVER attract and keep a new girl with this.

I met another great girl, i know idk yet if shes as good as my current, but shes worth a shot..

Shes really conservative, and even though i'm not - I honestly wouldn't mind waiting for her, for sex i mean.

Now ive recently noticed a FEW bumps down there, not on my penis, but UNDER my balls, not on the sack, but under that. and I noticed one, along the Hip line where my boxers are.

they look NOTHING like blisters, more like acne almost. The ones around the balls arnt weird shaped and look like little white heads.. and even before my herpes, i noticed a FEW little white heads there sometimes, on my balls directly and i know for sure its not herpes.

On my waist it looks like a big red ...bump..like a bug bite / big acne bump (forgot what its called)



Here is my question, I really like this new girl, she seems AMAZING - what should i tell my current girl, i love her and i want her to know i met someone else interesting but i don't want to hurt her - should i just suddenly say the long-distance thing isn't working, or should I mention the girl.

What do i tell this new girl if we start dating... Do i tell her about my hands? Shes only 17 idk how she'd take it. Should I wait awhile till the relationship got stronger, or if it came to the point were we were to have sex (what if thats not till marriage?) should I just wait till my next OB happens on my hands, she knows I fight competitively, so i dont think she'd think i was lying.

Please - Help, this is really though, Thanks a lot in advance, this forum is great.

Answer:
Do i tell her about my hands? Shes only 17... Tell her everything, before risking any contact that could infect her. Like you said she's only 17, and a bit naive like we all are at 17. So be sure she really understands the gravity of the situation, and even then protect her as much as you can, even if it means self control and self sacrifice.

I'm not going to get all preachy on you, but I will say that the only thing worse about my herpes would be if I infected someone else, especially a 17 year old.

Good luck with everything.

Answer:
notmyrealalias,

you need to be 100% honest with both girls. period.

Answer:
Honesty is really important. I remember many of your posts and I want to mention that you are young. You'll have lots of time to meet new interesting girls and it's a process in which one day you'll hopefully meet one that really rocks your world and that you want to see exclusively.

Until that day arrives you need to practice honesty and respect with each young lady you spend time with. Treat them with the same respect that you'd want them to treat you with.

I'd rather someone be honest. If you are interested in someone else and want to give it a shot you should at least try but at the same time you need to be considerate of your current girls feelings and not leave her hanging wondering why you don't call or for you to come running back to if things don't work. That just isn't cool. It makes perfect sense that a long distance romance might be difficult and you can use this as one of the reasons that you want to see someone you've met closer to home. Just be considerate when you break the news to her.