Question:
ok so here is the quick recap...

i had an outbreak,... it healed.... a couple days later i had unprotected sex with my partner that infected me originally. the next day i had sex with her, and somehting did not feel right. i stopped and realized i was having another worse outbreak.to make matters worse, the next 2 days, she feels tingling and gets 8 small sores.

she claims it is her first outbreak...by the way, at signs of my first outbreak we both had blood tests done. mine was negative and hers was postive. this happend the week before our 6 month anniversary.

these are my questions

did i just happen to get a second outbreak right after my first. or did the unprotected sex give more of the virus to me before i built up any antibodies?
remember i had the outbreak the next morning. i dont know if it can happen that fast?

also, was she just having a random outbreak, or can my outbreak cause her to have one. since the second time we had sex, i somehow failed to notice that blisters were forming.


she swears she has never had an outbreak...i just find it weird that she has one now that i have symptoms.


also from now on....can she get it orally from my genitals?

i read that if its the same strain, you already have anitbodies. so believing that, she gave it to me and already has antibodies and cannot get it orally from giving me oral. ...and once i build up anti bodies i cannnot get it orally from giving her oral? is this true?

Answer:
Yes you can re-infect her if you have the virus active on your skin. Yes she can get it orally from giving you oral sex. and yes you can get it orally from giving her oral sex.

Often directly after an ob the area is very sensitive and sex can bring on an ob. I waited until all of the redness, swelling, itching, etc. was gone before having sex and no ob happened. I waited several weeks.

Yes she can re-infect you now that she is having an active ob. Don't have sex when you have an ob' or think you are going to have an ob and the same goes for her.

Answer:
thanks for the response...

can i still re infect myself in another location...even after i build the antibodies...i assume yes..but still just want a firm answer...ive heard and read so many different things in the past few weeks....

i already have become ocd with washing my hands...im worried to transfer it orally to myself or to my eye etc...

is it likely...or rare but possible?

my sores have scabed, and fallen off about 5 days ago...my skin is now flat,...but my skin is white.... almost scar like still....is it the virus or simply becuase it was such a bad outbreak....how long after the scabs fall off is it the most safe...i say most safe because i htink its never safe due to viral shedding...



still taking baby steps to accepting what i have....