Question:
we dont all have HSV..

but we are still this educated iN the field..

we meet a special someone, get close, and they tell us they have HSV gential herpes..

be honest now, who would still continue the relasonship??

my GF doesnt have HSV, and she still loves me and wants to be with me in every way.. knowing her like i do now, i would if roles where reversed..

i do wonder tho, if i didnt know her and know how amazing she is... would i want to risk getting HSV?

id like to think i could,, but honest, i dunno..

opinions???

Answer:
I can honestly say that if I didn't have herpes, and I met someone and they told me they did...I would probably not be with them. Sad but true. I wouldn't be an ass about it, but I would explain my fears and phobias (I have a true blue germ phobia. You should see my loo, you could EAT off of the privvy in it, hahaha!)

So that is my honest answer. Sucks, because if my mate NOW had it and I didn't and I met him, that means I wouldnt have taken a chance on him and missed out on a super guy, we wouldn't have our darling baby together....SO.....

But he was brave enough to take a chance on ME and that along with a million other things make me respect him so much. He never let this bother him. And has always been supportive.

So we both lucked out gutted!!!! ;-)

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i agree.

i love her to bits, and if i met her now, knowing how great she is i would probs take the risk, but, if i had only just met her, i wouldnt know how great she is, and probs wouldnt take the risk...


one thing tho i DO KNOW how lucky i am she took the risk...

we have unprotected normal sex, if i have a tingle we dont do it until it cum and gone and then use condoms for a weke or two, then go back to unprotected..

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i think i would def. run the other way if i met somebody and they told me they had hsv2. but, truly it depends on, how long you the person, how you feel about the person, ah yes, gutted, you said we are all "educated" about it right? hmmmmm, if having to make the decision based on my first instincts, i would run like the wind.

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Herpes has such an unfortunate negative social stigma--an "incurable reoccurring disease". I thought of it like the plague before I found out I had it. Honestly, most of what you read on the educational sites doesn't really help put your mind to rest--it sounds awful, and safer sex is really high-maintenance stuff.

I think I would research the disease and probably be scared for a long time. It would definately effect any relationship I would be in for awhile, but if I read gutted's or ouch's post about a real person that HAS it, still is able to occasionally have unprotected sex, and is in a happy relationship, I think I would be tempted to give it a go (assuming I really, really loved the person).
I think I would want specifics on past pattern of ob's though.

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If we are speaking of "my guy" and the situation being reversed and I was the one without the hsv I'd risk getting hsv for him - but I've never met another living soul in my entire life who I do that for.

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caliope - same ere - but if the scenario im talking about is if u had only just met that person, and didnt know how fantastic they are...

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I would not have any risky physical contact with a woman with herpes unless...

I would be open to finding out if she was worth it long term. Friends or dating without sex would be ok. Of course I wouldn't want to waste her time either if she was looking for someone who wasn't as cautious as me, because I'd need a long time to decide if she was worth it. So she might end up rejecting me because I was taking too long trying to find out if I should reject her. Sounds pretty harsh but that's the way all dating is to one degree or another.

Honestly, chances are I would reject her. She would have to become "the one" and I would have to accept the fact that I would become infected at some point. If she turns out later to not be "the one", now I am infected and my chances of finding "the one" now are much smaller. So, she better damn well be "the last one". People today don't stay together like they used to (one reason why h is so common) so if I'm looking at any girl who I don't see as marriage/long term material, I can't justify taking the risk and sabotaging my future prospects and taking a substantial hit on my health which I already happen to be very self conscious about. Health is already a huge part of my life and someone who smokes or is generally unhealthy might not mind the virus as much as I do.

I guess my being more informed doesn't lead to more acceptance of the virus, it leads to more aversion to it. At least in my case. A lot of rejection stories I hear blame the rejector for just being ignorant, but really I can't blame them, whether they rejected because if knee-jerk stigma or educated reasoning.

I wouldn't blame someone for rejecting me, therefore I can't really blame myself for rejecting someone else for the same reason. If I really loved someone it would be very hard for me to expose them to my virus, even if they were fully willing to become infected.

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Mmmm...that's an interesting question.

For my soulmate - yes.

Anything else - no.

Chances of meeting my soulmate.....???????????

Mmm...guess that's a big fat NO then!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :rolleyes: