Question:
MY FIRST POST!

Been doing a lot of reading here and elsewhere (THANK you all for your posts). I'm GHSV I+ for over 10 years. Met a guy recently that I actually like (serious understatement) and we've broken the topic. We care about each other, but are not yet to the point of committing. We're curious how you discordant couples deal with HSV in your relationship:
- best techniques preventing/reducing transmission
- emotionally
- intellectually, rationally
- dealing/ measuring/ managing & ACCEPTING the risks

I of course am resigned to it, but am trying to help him cope/deal and make a decision. It is a serious decision, about risk, as he is insanely health conscious. Can you tell me what are the BEST 5 WAYS you deal with HSV in your relationship? How do you cope?

I feel like I'm finally growing up, and need to get a handle on this. I need help from all you guys who are making it work!

Answer:
not every couple is discordant, alot of couples are very open, and dont have issues with hsv. if he cant deal with it, then obviously hes not the right person for you- no matter how hot he is.
1- always talk
2- know yourself
3- be educated on the subject
4- dont bring the subject up unless its a issue(ie, why talk about herpes while eating dinner on your anniversary?)
5- no pressure ( i dont pressure my bf to do anything he doesnt want to> ie oral)