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Its kind of ironic that just a few days ago I was offering advice to others about dating with Herpes and sharing my wonderful most recent experience of telling. My boyfriend and I broke up tonight. Funny thing is that I am okay with the breakup EXCEPT for the idea of telling the next guy. It makes me so scared to date. Can I really go through that again? Damn, I thought I had gotten past this crap. I thought I was going to marry the guy and never have to go through it again. I feel for everyone on this site. We are all in this together. Thank God for the support that we can give each other. I would not be where I am today if it weren't for support groups like this. I love you guys!

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What a bummer! Though it sounds like you're ok with it, breakups are never easy. Especially with the knowledge of what it takes to get fully into one when you have HSV. But too many people stay in relationships that are bad for them just because they don't want to risk that whole deal again...good for you for not being one of them : ) Take care - Palomita

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Tab -

You know, I have posted a ton about my dating experience... and alot of people know I found someone great. Turned out I was terribly wrong. He was dishonest with himself and with me. He told me he had HPV. I knew nothing about it, and irresponsibly took his word that I was safe being with him. A few weeks back someone on this site asked about HPV. So I asked him a few questions...and it all fell apart. He neglected to tell me that he never researched HPV - and callously told me to ask my Doc. So I did.

I don't have time now to get into what I found out. Lets just say it's highly probable that I have it. While I was with him he had two bumps on his penis - I asked about them - concerned they were warts - he told me they were "skin tags" that a doc told him that. I questioned that 3 times and he responded the same. Yesterday he called and said he just came from the doc. I was right. Warts. So, as careful an cautious as I was. I now, most likely have 2 std's. Nice.

So now, I get to tell that too. Sucks.

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By the way - that was me above... too angry to sign in I guess... pretty shocking huh?

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Its hard to believe how many jerks there are out there. After reading so many of your posts (both the supportive responses to others in need as well as your own personal experiences), I almost feel like I know you and I can't believe that someone would do something like that to you. You are a genuinely wonderful and caring person and even in your own time of need, you still attempt to help others.

I want to remind you of some of your own advice. See your doctor and make sure before you jump to the conclusion that you've definitely been exposed to HPV. I sincerely hope that its a false alarm. But no matter what, know that the same people that you've helped along the way will be here to support you.

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Thank you for that - appreciated more than you know.

I have in fact been exposed. No question. I have made an appointment to be tested - for EVERYTHING. I'm even going to request HSV screening as well - to insure my HSV2 only status... I"m insanely angry with myself for letting my guard down... going against my instincts over and over again thinking it was just guilt from my x boyfriend.... but it was mindful warnings.

And you know, I told my x boyfriend all about it... HE feels responsible - if he hadn't broken up with me I wouldn't be in this situation.... and he loves me no matter what I have and wants me back... but I'm hesitant and now afraid of exposing him to both HSV and HPV... go figure.

Unbelievable got to 31 with no STDs...
My HUSBAND gave me HSV - he didn't know he had it...
My boyfriend possibly gave me HPV after my interrigating him about all of this STD stuff.. and he lied....

trust.... knowledge..... wisdom......... I guess I"m still learning.

thanks again guest.

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Its funny but despite having HSV I don't think I would ever want to completely lose my trust and faith in humankind. Its really sad that there are people out there who would knowingly pass something on, but there are plenty of good people out there who wouldn't. Don't feel bad for letting your guard down... we would never be able to love if we didn't. Its just a shame that he wasn't worthy.

Do you still love your ex? If he wants you back and is willing to take the risk, it might be worth it.

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Thanks for the support! I am having a shitty day. I was okay until last night...I just lost it. I miss him so much. I am worried about dating again, telling again. Why did I have to be ignorant and get Herpes? I knew he had a cold sore...knew it is herpes...why did I expose myself to it and not think that it could be passed that way? What did I do in a past life that caused this to happen to me? Screw karma. It is pissing me off. Dammit, I thought I would never have to tell anybody ever again. This freaking sucks.

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Keep in mind that when you started this past relationship, the telling wasn't easy but you managed it! And when its the right person, the herpes won't be an issue.

Just curious, have you ever dated someone who is also hsv+?