Question:
I havent been here for a while and I havent had any ob's. I guess I thought it was all a dream until my husband told me that he has feelings for another girl. We havent had sex in a long time. When I first found out we used condoms but latley there is no sex. He cant deal. He wont even get information about it. Hes negative for 2 but has 1 and I feel like an alien. What he wants is both. Me for the family part and her for the physical part. As a woman I cant deal with that. Its not normal to me. I want him to just accept and live the herpes life with me but he cant. I cant blame him I guess for feeling this way nor can he blame me. So it seems the best thing to do would be to get a divorce. I just had a baby and I thought I was living a good life but this thing has turned my world upside down. I cant see myself dating or sexing with anyone if we do get divorced. Im pretty much done trying to have happiness.I've read that some people have found it after herpes but I dont think thats the case for me.

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i am sorry to hear about your situation. i do feel that you will have a relationship and sex and a husband, if you so choose in the future. it is difficult to deal with this, especially being alone, but it will get easier (I am hoping for the same for me) i have been alone since i got this virus and plan on being alone for quite some time, but i know, there will come a time, when i will have somebody in my life; as you will. chin up, hang in there; this a great place to be for support and advice.

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I cant blame him I guess for feeling this way

Errr...yes you can. He won't even read about it. He's got the same as you for god's sake. Only his is oral - or is it? Maybe he has it genitally but has no symptoms?

Anyway, if he seriously thinks he can stay with you and have a mistress then he's a complete insensitive tosser. Don't stand for it. It'll keep you feeling bad about yourself.

You've done nothing wrong (unless you had an affair or something???) and he has no right to treat you like this.

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And another thing - change your username. You've bought into the message he's giving you that you're unattractive. YOU ARE NOT. Change it to ATTRACTIVE. That could be your first step to getting YOU back again.