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So I finally came clean to a recent girl I was dating, to you know, be morally conscious and to "do the right thing" and tell her I have HSVII What happened? Well, we broke up the next day. Not for having H of course, but because of her. She wasn't ready for the committment.

Well, this will be the last time that I ever do that again. In fact, I'm going to make sure that I never tell another partner that I have H again. I'm going to even go one step further and make an effort to have unprotected sex with multiple partners. Why on Earth would I do a god awful thing like that? Well, before you all jump at me, hear my rationale.

First of all, did anyone inform me that they have H? No. And, I'm sure that the majority of the people on this forum are in the same boat. Yes, I know there are a group of you that have been told beforehand. But I'm going to wager a guess that it is in the neighborhood of 70% of the people here have NOT been told. Of course, this reason alone does not surely give me the right to do the same. Do onto others as you wish others to do onto u?

Here's my real rationale. If you ever have read the Dr.Seuss book, Sneetches, then you will understand exactly where I'm coming from. The premise is that there are two kinds of sneethes. Ones with stars and ones without. The star-bellied sneetches do not want to fratanize with the ones without. Finally, a man comes with a machine to give stars on the bellies of the sneetches without stars. Finally, they are accepted again since the other sneetches do not know the difference. The story continues but in the end, all sneetches finally accept one another as they are. Well, I'm sure Dr.Seuss didn't mean this story to apply so much to people with herpes and people without but it works.

So here's the question. What if everyone in the world had herpes?? Then would it have the same negative social stigma? Would people go through the endless moral dilemmas of telling their partners and worry about acceptance?

I would argue that aside from the minor physical discomfort (and I know some of you have major discomforts) of the disease, the whole social side would be gone. I would argue that the minor pain of everyone having the disease would be much less then the major pain of the group of us have to go through with the social aspect of the disease.

So, after several failed attempts to tell partners I have the disease and get rejected, I'm vowing to never tell another partner again and have endless unprotected sex with countless individuals in the hopes that they will do the same and by not to very long in the future, the world will all have herpes and there will be a lot less pain the world. I urge you to do the same.

Spread the love.

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only thing I have to say... HIV

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Hmmm, if you're joking I don't think anyone is laughing. If you're not, then I feel sorry for you and anyone who comes in contact with you. Spread the love? Spread the anger, hatred and bitternes while you're at it. You made a bad decision because you weren't informed, lived recklessly, showed immaturity and the lesson you've learned is to keep this destructive behavior going? Nice job. You made an adult decision to have sex, now you're dealing with consequences so do the right thing and act like an adult.

If you're looking for hook-ups try the anonymous classifieds and be honest, I bet there is a great person waiting to meet and maybe just hook up with someone like yourself. The bottomline is to take the step towards being grown up and creating integrity within yourself.

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Are you outta your fucking mind?!?!?!

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playadelsol,

not sure if you think this is funny and if you are serious or not, but all i can say is God help you. What a terrible outlook you have on this. how very selfish of yourself to not tell your partners. revenge on innocent people because somebody did you wrong in life is def. the wrong approach. i honestly hope you rethink your position on this.

do you have children? what if somebody did this to your children? how would you feel then?

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You're a lucky guy. You know why. Because having revealed this to your gal she revealed her true nature to you. A 'just wanna have fun babe'. I think you should look at the silver lining and count yourself lucky. Now you can move on with your life now rather than wasting so much time in a relationship which will progress nowhere.

If you are having outbreaks it signifies that your immune system is more than compromised. YOu're not healthy enough to knock this thing off yet. So what's going to happen when you sleep arround in the hope of making the world a more equal place. Well you'll get whatever else is going arround faster. It's a bit like spitting in the face of the wind. You get it all over you.

All I can say to you is take time for yourself right now. Get to know yourself. What you want from life. Do things which you love to do (sex aside). Just give time time to sort this out for you. At the very least wait. The way you feel today is not the way you'll feel tomorrow.

Don't listen to your mind. Yesterday you're convinced teling was the best thing. Noble and right. Today you're at the other end. Fuck the world share the disease. Your mind is hopping. DO not look for the solutions to your problems in your head. And if it helps always take the middle ground. Which in your case would read I need not tell every girl and neither need I sleep with every girl. I wish indeed that you find true love. An open minded honest soul who is ready to walk with your futher along the road of awareness and consiousness. Don't forget you're one of the privileged, you've left the state of mass unconsiousnes behind (do as one pleases, fuck the consequences) you're now about to fly with the angels. But you mst first prove your mettle to qualify for the wings. I wrote this poem some time ago. I'll let you have it. You can substitute the word God for good. it means the same thing.

Angel Girl

If I found an earthly girl
Who had got angel wings
If I found an earthly girl
Who for God’s glory sings
If I found an angel girl to whisper in my ear
I’m sure my life on earth here would be easier to bear
I’d hold her tight
With all my might
And never let her go
Oh if I found an earthly girl who walks with God’s own glow

Oh that I find an angel girl to see the God in me
I would live to adore the little God in she
I think we’d surely travel
And all the world we’d see
And hand in hand discover God’s vast diversity
And when at last our days were done
And from this world we’d flee
We’d trade in our duality
For the Holy Trinity

You have all my love
Christy

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So I'm guessing I'm not getting a lot of support on my approach eh?

Well, you're not completely, I am not being selfish. Deep down, I wish to somehow, in some round about way, help the mass population. I am certain that emotional pain >>>>> physical pain.

Well, fuck that. Maybe I'm not going to go around and sleep with every partner I see. I'm not stupid. I don't want HIV. But I sure as hell am not going to inform every partner I set eyes on, that I have this disease.


Like I said, I already took the moral highground and you know what?, it didnt' work out so well for me. You're right, I'm being selfish. But you know what? At the end of the day, every single human being is selfish. And they only look out for the best interests. In this case, I'm looking out for mine.

Also, let me plant this little seed, imagine a world where there were no differences and every single person was in the same boat. Would you still feel the same?

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You're a lucky guy. You know why. Because having revealed this to your gal she revealed her true nature to you. A 'just wanna have fun babe'. I think you should look at the silver lining and count yourself lucky. Now you can move on with your life now rather than wasting so much time in a relationship which will progress nowhere.

If you are having outbreaks it signifies that your immune system is more than compromised. YOu're not healthy enough to knock this thing off yet. So what's going to happen when you sleep arround in the hope of making the world a more equal place. Well you'll get whatever else is going arround faster. It's a bit like spitting in the face of the wind. You get it all over you.

All I can say to you is take time for yourself right now. Get to know yourself. What you want from life. Do things which you love to do (sex aside). Just give time time to sort this out for you. At the very least wait. The way you feel today is not the way you'll feel tomorrow.

Don't listen to your mind. Yesterday you're convinced teling was the best thing. Noble and right. Today you're at the other end. Fuck the world share the disease. Your mind is hopping. DO not look for the solutions to your problems in your head. And if it helps always take the middle ground. Which in your case would read I need not tell every girl and neither need I sleep with every girl. I wish indeed that you find true love. An open minded honest soul who is ready to walk with your futher along the road of awareness and consiousness. Don't forget you're one of the privileged, you've left the state of mass unconsiousnes behind (do as one pleases, fuck the consequences) you're now about to fly with the angels. But you mst first prove your mettle to qualify for the wings. I wrote this poem some time ago. I'll let you have it. You can substitute the word God for good. it means the same thing.

Angel Girl

If I found an earthly girl
Who had got angel wings
If I found an earthly girl
Who for God’s glory sings
If I found an angel girl to whisper in my ear
I’m sure my life on earth here would be easier to bear
I’d hold her tight
With all my might
And never let her go
Oh if I found an earthly girl who walks with God’s own glow

Oh that I find an angel girl to see the God in me
I would live to adore the little God in she
I think we’d surely travel
And all the world we’d see
And hand in hand discover God’s vast diversity
And when at last our days were done
And from this world we’d flee
We’d trade in our duality
For the Holy Trinity

You have all my love
Christy Oh and thanks for your kind words and thoughts. It's more than I can say for the rest of the posts.

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Oh and thanks for your kind words and thoughts. It's more than I can say for the rest of the posts. Awww, are you looking for sympathy? Gimme a break! You want to infect unsuspecting others and expect "kind word and thoughts" from people on this board? If that's what you expect you're going to be disappointed.

You need to realize, like most of the adults on this board, that YOU made a decision and now you need learn to deal with it. It's called being an adult. I don't care what excuses you have, accept this predicament and stop with the the self-pity, it's destructive and as you grow older, you'll learn that being a grown-up requires taking responsibility, not getting 'even' because life has dealt you a problem.

Do everyone a favor and go talk to someone before you continue this downward spiral.