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A few friends have tried them with the same results.....rude responses if you get any responses at all.

I was moronic enough to join one pay site and I won't be renewing.

One person was emailed on June 5th....she was last on the site 6 hours ago. No responses.

Another was emailed June 4th...she was last on the site 14 days ago.

A third was emailed May 14th....she was last on the site 11 days ago.

I did receive a "thank you" for an April 26th email on the 27th. I asked is she was interested and received no further reply. She was last on the site 11 days ago.

I haven't emailed anyone on that site since June. Why even bother?

Herpes is bad enough without downright rudeness. No, no one should be forced to reply but a simple "no thanks" is common courtesy.

Unfortinately, common courtesy isn' quite as common as it used to be.

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you seem like a nice guy from what ive read, plus i think the v-for vendetta guy was hot, but you can do alot better then those sites, i think using those sites only make it worse.. like ok we all have herpes, now> how bad is yours? and you end up just comparing your herpes until they find someone that fits into them, and dont see the person beyond herpes.

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I am not a huge fan of the dating sites because I find it difficult to find anybody near my age. I tried it for a week but most people were around 40 and even though I am flattered I would prefer someone a little younger then that. The only time I didnt reply was when I recieved really perverted or cheesy pick up lines but other then that i tried to be polite. Its a shame that most girls dont feel that way about a guys feelings and vice-versa

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you seem like a nice guy from what ive read, plus i think the v-for vendetta guy was hot, but you can do alot better then those sites, i think using those sites only make it worse.. like ok we all have herpes, now> how bad is yours? and you end up just comparing your herpes until they find someone that fits into them, and dont see the person beyond herpes. Believe me, I understand all of that. The problem is what exactly do you do differently? I'm not exactly in a metropolitan area at the moment so my options are drastically limited.

The problems people have on a herpes site are largely the same ones they had before contracting herpes. If you're a short guy, a tall woman, too heavy, too skinny, etc., it simply is another reason to shut you out.

I think what has set me off recently is getting hit by those damn scammers. Granted, I can tell them a mile away and have no worries but its irritating to see an email in your inbox and find more of that crap.

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I am not a huge fan of the dating sites because I find it difficult to find anybody near my age. I tried it for a week but most people were around 40 and even though I am flattered I would prefer someone a little younger then that. The only time I didnt reply was when I recieved really perverted or cheesy pick up lines but other then that i tried to be polite. Its a shame that most girls dont feel that way about a guys feelings and vice-versa I wish I'd never tried them. I never knew the sound of crickets could be so expensive. The age thing IS a problem. The younger women with herpes aren't after a substitute dad and the older ones who've contracted it are usually in full "fling" mode and want someone 5-10 years younger than themselves.

Jeez....when do I get a fling?

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heheh well I dont know about you but I am done with flings. Its what got me into trouble in the first place ;) well in my case the guys are at least 15 years older then I am. Yeah scammers are a pain. Its hard to tell the difference between whos "real" and who isnt online. I understand its rude when a person dosent reply but at the same token if they are going to be shallow enough to judge you before they get to know you, why bother? they arent worth your time. You seem like a nice guy. You just need to a nice girl, and trust me they arent all that bad. We fight with the difficulties of finding someone to be with. If i dont find anyone I am getting a puppy ;) in some ways I am sure I will be happier with that route then I would be with a man anyways. no offense to you. But from experience good men are hard to find. Either that or they just dont live in my area ;)

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heheh well I dont know about you but I am done with flings. Its what got me into trouble in the first place ;) well in my case the guys are at least 15 years older then I am. Yeah scammers are a pain. Its hard to tell the difference between whos "real" and who isnt online. I understand its rude when a person dosent reply but at the same token if they are going to be shallow enough to judge you before they get to know you, why bother? they arent worth your time. You seem like a nice guy. You just need to a nice girl, and trust me they arent all that bad. We fight with the difficulties of finding someone to be with. If i dont find anyone I am getting a puppy ;) in some ways I am sure I will be happier with that route then I would be with a man anyways. no offense to you. But from experience good men are hard to find. Either that or they just dont live in my area ;) Keep in mind that I got herpes as the result of getting married. One of the reasons, though hardly the major one, for getting married was to avoid such a thing. that's what I got after expending about 5 hard years in the relationship.

I'm told I'm a nice guy but that isn't what most women are after I guess. Too many want a "bad boy" who looks good, smells good, is a little edgy, and will almost certainly beat the living crap out of them. Yes, I am a nice guy......and that is worth about as much as the dollar these days.

To be honest, I've caught far more grief from being short than having herpes.

Scammers are what they are. It isn't that difficult dealing with them because it ought to be obvious what a blazing hot 20 something is doing when she emails a 55 year old guy with herpes.

I might go the puppy route. Good women are impossible to find....at least any nearby who honestly care.

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you sound discouraged, dont be!. i found a few nice people on those sites, like anything it takes some time

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I'm told I'm a nice guy but that isn't what most women are after I guess. Too many want a "bad boy" who looks good, smells good, is a little edgy, and will almost certainly beat the living crap out of them. Yes, I am a nice guy......and that is worth about as much as the dollar these days. That's not true. The women who want so-called "bad boys" are mentally retarded. They have some perverted idea that manhood looks like "problems" and boorishness. There has to be major drama, major friction, major trust violations, major disappointments, and then they want to talk about them endlessly with their mentally retarded girlfriends in major ways. Forget them. Please don't assume those women are all that exists. Date up. There are some women who appreciate good men and nice guys. I personally wouldn't date anything less. In my case, I'm not a drama queen, always tell them the truth and won't play mysterious mind games. And that actually throws many men off because there's no playbook for dealing with somebody like that. They're expecting big dramatic scenes in restaurants with tears and flair and I won't give it to them and it totally unsettles men who've been nursed on a different mentally retarded female diet.