Question:
I'm sure this has been covered at some point in time on here. I just found out I have hsv2. I was sexual with a guy from my past about a little more than a week ago. I told him and he is supportive. He told me that he was tested 4 weeks ago and it came back negative. He has been with a few that have had it but this was years ago. He didn't have an blisters or lesions that I noticed.

The question I am getting to is could I have been a carrier? Could it have been dormat in me for this long? I have been under stress by being laid off from work but the week before I got this I received a job offer and took it. I'm not stressed out like I have been. Could I have gotten it from someone I was with previously? If so, how do I tell them? It was easy telling the guy I was just with but I know not all guys are going to take it the same way. please help. need advice.

Answer:
I wonder why this guy tested just four weeks ago ...but that is besides my point. I don't know if this is the right thing but for me right now it is.. I'm not telling my previous partners. I had a boyfriend when I was diagnoised and of course told him of my symtoms that I was going to the doc etc ..and that i'm positive for genital herpes. He tested negative. We were together six months but used a condom everytime. Prior to him i had a boyfriend a couple years ago and we used a condom everytime so I'm not going to tell him because if he doesn't have symtoms why burdon him ...he's safe enough to use condoms all the time (yes I know you can still give it/get it when wearing condoms) but why stress the guy; my last boyfriend didn't get it and we had tons of sex. Prior to my old boyfriend it had been well over a year with a one night stand in Mexico ...ummm two night stand (we actually kept in contact for a long time after) anyway he wore a condom. Prior to him it had been about a year and prior to that I'm not going there. I'm almost thirty two years old and although my recent record of sexual incounters has been limited (sense I got sober) I used to be somewhat ....my point is its a personal choice I've made not to tell past sexual partners. Judge me as you will but at the time i was drinking i wasn't dating guys who gave a damn anyway so ...what can I say? I actually encourage your judgements on this ...what do you guys think ...should we seek out and tell all sexual partners. I have no idea when I got this thing...