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Hi, I am new to this. Iam entering the dating world. I am 19 years old and the men I have been dating are in their early 20's. I don't know how to say it when it gets to that point of intercourse (which it has not yet). Just wondering if any of you have talked to someone you started dating and you thought they wouldn't understand..how do guys take it? Am I alone feeling this way?:confused: Take care everyone

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Yeah,

I am a 25 year old male. I just came down with herpes earlier in the week. I'm single and got it after making out and grinding with a chick, evidently no direct skin contact is needed. I've only slept with two people in my life (both long-term relationships), and am struggling mightly with all of this. I can't imagine having to explain to my next partner that I have herpes. It's more the negative stigma that is associated with it. I think the younger the person the more difficult the discussion will be. I had just started dating another girl that is from my old high school, and I broke up with her, I just can't bring myself to talk to her about my herpes; I guess I don't need her going around to everyone I know.

Seriously the worst week of my life; I can understand your fear.

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I just came down with herpes earlier in the week. I'm single and got it after making out and grinding with a chick, evidently no direct skin contact is needed. Wait, grinding as in clothes-on dancing or grinding as in rubbing your genitals against each other without penetration?

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grinding with both of us wearing boxers...

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This is the first time I have had to rehash this. I had a monogomous relationship for 4 years with my previous g/f and we broke up as she is graduating from college and looking to exlpore. That was quite a bad experience for me; I would have married her on the spot. Fast forward 2 months... I meet a girl, I've had a few beers, she seems nice, we come back to my place and talk eventually get in bed, she keeps on her shirt and boxers (I sleep in boxers) we make out a little heavy petting I go to sleep. 3 days after I felt a little wierd, 7 days after I gets some pain, and at 10 days, no doubt herpies. Not bad, but burns a bit.

I went to get a blood test to ensure it would be negative, I get these results back tomorrow or Friday. My doctor thought that the chances were so low I may have had them previously and they came out "by chance" after 7 days. If it comes back positive (at 12 days) the antibodies shouldn't have been there yet, so I know I had them previously. Then I get to go tell the ex of 4 years that I have herpies and she needs to be tested.

The kicker, the g/f and I had an STD checkup before we started dating, f'ing doctor tested for everything except herpies, and we came up negative.

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Its a pain in the arse! unless you ask them, they check for everything except herpes. I was put in the same position, i gave it to a girl and i had no idea ihad had it even though i had been for a full std check.

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Why don't they give you the herpes test?

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thanks for understanding! Yea i agree the younger you the harder it is to tell people our age or around our age. People make fun of it and think it is the worst thing in the world when really soo many people have it and we were lucky enough to find out to protect other people. I just wish i could rewind a bit. Im sooo scared to tell a guy..i just think soo negative about it i dont see any positives coming out of the "talk"

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Having just found out about this, part of me can't help but think, "I wish I didn't even know about this", maybe if I was asymtamatic my life would have been easier, why am I so unlucky?

Then I remember not to feel bad for myself, keep my head up, and handle my shit like I have my entire life. I can't even imagine telling someone I wanted to be with; you know what my response would have been 2 months ago??? "Not worth the chance, thanks for telling me." So that's how I think anyone I tell would also think. It puts a serious cramp on my life plans.

If you end up telling him let me know how it goes, and how you brought it up. Take care...