Question:
I just told my boyfriend last night about what my gh, he knew i had an appointment and that i was concerned about an std, but i didnt want to tell him what i thought it was until i was sure. He was so understanding ofcourse, and said there was nothing that could change the way he felt about me, and that he loves me no matter what. that was really good to hear because i was almost in tears when i told him. I got it from him actually but he has never had any symptoms so he did not realize he had it, well until we now know thats the only way i contracted it. however, i asked my doctor if he should get a blood test done and she said that there is no point. it will just tell you if its if type one or two, which would be what i have..still not sure what type i have, and that if its type one, they wont be able to tell us if its from genital or oral? i was just wondering like if not knowing with effect our sex life? for example if it is type 1 but on his genitals...than will get it on my mouth to if we have oral sex? and even thought it seems he has no symptoms and gave it to me, will he still be able to get an outbreak because of me from giving me oral, or having vaginal sex? im so confused, and i dont want him to go through what i have. anyone who knows anything, please help!

Answer:
If you know for sure you got it from him, your doctor is kinda right. The only thing a test will tell you is what type he has, not that he has it cause you already know. However, the test will NOT tell you WHERE he has it, so that one's up to you guys to figure out. If he never has an outbreak, it's almost impossible to tell. If he transmitted it to you, there is some possibility that if you have intercourse while having an outbreak, you could produce enough of the virus on his skin to create a reaction, and thereby give him an ob, but only you two can tell if that's how it works for you.

As for the question about transmission around your own bodies -- that's kinda a hard one. Generally after the first outbreak ( or at least hte first few months) when your body has had some time to build up antibodies, there's little chance of autoinnoculation or transferring it around your bodies by having sex. Doesn't mean it WON'T happen, but the chances are lower. I think the general idea is if you have the same thing (ie one of you gave it to the other) and you allow a sufficient amount of time to pass for your body to build up antibodies, the two of you should be ok for whatever. But with HSV, there's just no "always".

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so there is not a big chance that i can get it on my mouth too? or that he can get it, since clearly he has antibodies?