Question:
Just curious- guy I'm dating(or was dating till I found out) has herpes and wanted to have sex. Im not ready for that yet, but I am willing to experiment with other sexual things, that are not as risky (not oral) but I am afraid to suggest it to him. I actually really like that kind of stuff but am afraid if I tell him he'll be hurt that I don't want to have actual sex and maybe doesn't like that kind of stuff anyway. Any suggestions from people who have hsv2? Suggestions on what they do rather than have actual sex?

Answer:
massages, complete with scented oil and soothing music.

feathers and deep kisses... tickle gentle different places in the body... its a different kind of stimulation.

masturbate in front of each other... not for a 'new couple' per say... but can be a very neat experience.

naughty talk/phone calls are good during break outs too ;)

Answer:
It worries me that you can't be open with your partner. If you're going to make a sexual relationship work, why beat around the bush? If you prefer some other kind of stimulation over intercourse, TELL HIM. The worst that can happen is he says he hates that, and you consider how long a sexual relationship could really last if he won't do the things that turn you on. As HSV positive, i would think it would just make him MORE open to allowing you to work your way into a sexual relationship, and i'd be worried about him if he wasn't.