Question:
This disease has truly been stigmatized by society, and I'm truly shocked at the statistics that I have read on Herpes. I'm pretty sure that all of us, including myself, used to think we were infallible and incapable of contracting anything. But if there is one good thing I can say about contracting this, it has truly humbled me as a person..However let me get to the point..
After about two weeks of being with my boyfriend, I contracted Herpes, and he has swared up and down that he has never had any previous symptoms or has even been diagnosed with the disease. But when I told him..unlike all of the other people on this website..his reaction wasn't dramatic, he didn't need any time to think, he was normal..and it was almost worrying! I know for a fact that his reaction is not normal and it made me think as to if he was telling the truth. Maybe it was just a facet of his personality, that he wishes not to stress about things..but his lack of stress made me stress even more!
Even more worrying, he hasn't been to the doctor to get himself checked out..and the first time we had sex after I told him, he chose not to use a condom and showed absolutely NO WORRY!! What the hell? Tell me that isn't unrealistic.. All of the guys who have posted messeges are worried about contracting the disease even if they use a condom..and my boyfriend doesn't think its neccessary...what am I supposed to do..How do I approach him on the subject..its so akward..he is a great guy otherwise..but this has been weighing heavily on my mind. Because I can't talk to a lot of people about this..I would appreciate some advice...

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Sorry to say it, but it sounds like he knew, sweetie. I can't think of ANYONE who wouldn't at least show some kind of concern or alarm at being exposed. Even a person who won't bat an eyelash at this news would still be a little more questioning, curious, concerned, etc. about their chances of contracting this from you. So if your gut tells you he knew, he probably did.

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I have to agree with Spicechick. When I told my current boyfriend I had H before we ever had sex. And although he was supportive and never said he wanted to leave me, he had lots and lots and lots of questions.

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I got herpes and have only been with my bf. He got tested and was negative. I still don't know how i got it but I think it had to be from him having a cold sore and givng me oral sex so that could be how you got it.......

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huh, Young I am in a simular situation. I am 27 years old, was a good girl and a virgin until 2 weeks ago. Yep...I got this POS thing on Valentines day when I lost my damned virginity. What luck aye?

Anyways the guy....has no symptoms, swears up and down that he got tested for this in January and was negative. He is baffled. Ive never ever had a cold sore or anything. My hygene has been almost OCD lol I have always taken care of my body. Dont smoke, drink and try to eat healthy.

Now I will just die if he goes and gets tested and they come up negative. I am 100 percent positive that he gave this to me unknowingly but....since he swears that he was negative a couple months ago, why would he be positive now? He doesnt sleep around. I just dont get it.

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I also read in a health book that you can give it to yourself by touching a cold sore and then touching down there. It doesn't happen often but can happen. Noone ever told us that in health class.......I really don't know how I got herpes either

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well...booboo...that pretty much mirrors my story with my ex. he couldnt have cared less. no condom, no nothin....told me it didnt bother him. i asked him to be tested. he never did. he thought it was him anyway due to all the unprotected sex he had in his past. oh well...whaddaya gonna do?? acceptance is what i had to get to...

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well the other thing is...you can get herpes from nonsexual contact. that is why just using a condom is not always safe. it is skin to skin. so to "thissucks"...i think its possible that either one of you could have contracted it if you were previously with someone who was either having a break out or shedding, if you were naked together or messing around without actually having sex. if a part of his or your body was in contact with someone who has the virus, and they are shedding the virus through their skin...you could get it.

that is why so many teenagers are getting it. because they think that using a condom is "safe sex". what they dont know...is that you can get it by touching other parts...like thigh against thigh....or general genital area. im pretty sure this is correct, but if anyone else has other info...id be glad to be wrong....