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I was just recenly divorced after being married for 15 years. My wife gave me the virus. It's realy not her falut she didn't know she had it until here first outbreak and then I followed shortly after.

This is the first woman that I have met since the divorce. I am scared as hell to tell her about this but I know I have to. I really needs some advise. I am almost sure she will run as soon as I tell her.

Please, Please, Please tell me there is a way to explain this to someone without losing them.

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awww..he's right...give her time to get to know you...im sorry i don't know how to tell you to explain it to her..i haven't had to do that yet.... sigh.......itsa scary thing....im thinking about becoming a nun....ok...that doesn't help....the way i see it is....if that person really cares for you it won't matter...i hope she sees you for who you are...and not that shit...good luck.....i hope everything works out....let us know...we're all here for ya!!!

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I've had H for ten years. My policy is to tell up front. The reasons are all positive, it's not lurking in the back of your mind, if she likes you you'll remain friends and maybe more. I have a question for you. Since you were in an intimate relationship for so long; what did you do sexually? did you refrain during obs? oral sex? did it spread to other body areas? The reason I'm asking is my partner and I dated for 5 years-I didn't give it to her, we split for 5and got bak together and now she does. But is paranoid to get it other places and thinks it can spread, answers?

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I still haven't told her yet. I hate to say it but I don't want to loose her. We still have not had sex. I guess I'm trying to stretch this thing out as long as I can before the Inevitable.

I've read just about all these messages on the board and it's really put the hook in me. Maybe I've made a mistake thinking I could live a normal life outside a relationship with a partner who has H.

Sorry to sound so glum but being alone is not my forte.

In answer to one of the other replies. I have not had the virus show up anywere else other than on my genital area. This was after 15 years of dealing with the virus in a sexual relationship. We did opstain from sex when the virus was active. I think that really helped as well.

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Hi - new to this forum but read your message and thought about experience I have just gone through with really wonderful man who has GH(I don't). He told me about this after a few months of knowing one another, before we had any sexual contact. I really respected him for that and after finding out as much as I could, decided that I was prepared to take the risk with him (being careful, using condoms etc).

Unfortunately he then decided after some more time together to take that decision away from me - and end our relationship, just because I don't have GH.
Give the woman a chance, tell her when you feel comfortable enough with her but remember that she is an adult, who is capable of making an informed decision. Hope all goes well.