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In advance I would like to say THANK YOU for taking the time to read my post and if you reply thanks!
I have been in a relationship for about 5 years now. He and I have had our share of ups and downs as all relationships do. Anyway, about 3 years into our relationship I was diagnosed with HSV1. I had never had any signs of the virus prior to my first out break. I went to the OBGY and she confirmed which type I had. I told my boyfriend and he took it veyr well. He comforted me and advised me we would learn about this together and he would always be there for me. He had a blood test and it came back negative. I began taking suppresive therapy, Valtrex. We never discussed the situation. We were no longer intimate. At times I found myself pointing out (to myself) all the ways he had changed. He wouldnt share a drink with me. (I had HSV1 but had the sore on my genitalia area). He wouldnt kiss me, if he happened to which was far and few, it would be a quick peck. I became extremely depressed, I was holding in all my thoughts and emotions inside and was about to explode. I was angry at life, and a peice of me was angry he never tried discussing the situation with me to comfort me. We began arguing more frequently after I was diagnosed. I blamed it all on HSV1, he swore we just werent getting along. We mutually took a break from one another. The break lasted about 4 months. I used the time to help myself heal. I began researching the virus with all means I could find. He used the time to meet other people. Ouch. He ended up sleeping with a woman he only knew for a short period of time. On top of that with out protection. After finding out I felt horrible inside. He would not touch me with a ten foot pole after I found out about my virus. Yet he was sleeping with a woman he had no idea of her sexual past, just the information she chose to tell. We had a hard time getting through that one. It has been a little over 8 months since our break. He and I began seeing eachother again. He apologized for never talking to me about my situation. I know I sound stupid for getting back with him but my love for him is unconditional. I truly believe all people can be good and change. Our relationship has been great. We are getting along great. He and I agreed to learn about the situation together. About two months ago we became intimate again. I felt so complete the day we did. I felt like this virus was not going to take over my life. We use all precautions to prevent the transmission. He and I plan to be together forever. He told me would love me no matter what the situation was. We are now discussing our options and concerns so we can start our family. I just want everyone to know out there, there is hope.

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Congradulations. I am very happy things worked out for you 2 and I hope they continue to. Just remeber that if they dont that you CAN find someone who will accept and respect you. And that U ARE WORTH THE RISK.

Take care

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I am glad that things are going well for you. Good for you for not losing your faith in yourself and your relationship. You dont sound stupid at all. I am curious as to what options you discovered for starting a family. When my boyfriend left me he told me his main reason was the fear of complications that HSV can cause to unborn children (even though neither one of us knew much about those complications and how much risk is involved). Have you found out much info? I am actually finding it harder to cope with the thought of what it may do to my baby than will I ever find someone willing to have babies with me and HSV..... If you can offer me any advice I'd be very grateful.
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