Question:
I get cold sores. Have been for abour 5 years now. Was lyed to and contracted this terrible virus. I feel like a social outcast....... I'm afraid to date. Don't even go out anymore..... Had "THE TALK" with two people and I was left alone. I'm sooo depressed with this. Feel like my life is over and will be alone forever. Feel like I'm being punished. :( Tryed the H dating sites but am even afraid and embarrassed to post a pic. I've turned down a date or two just because I dont want to go through the talk and the rejection again... What really sucks is I'm considered a good looking guy and never had a problem getting dates... Well, guess I'll be alone the rest of my life....

Answer:
Sadly, society has placed this stigma on a Virus that affects approx 95% of the global population in one form or another. The lack of education about herpes is really quite disturbing when you start to read about the various forms that it comes in and the illnesses that are associated with it.

MS, Epstein barr, mononucleosis, cold sores, Cytomeglovirus, HPV etc. etc.

More people have it than you would believe and there are soo many people around the world that carry this virus and are unaware of it.

Don't accept that you'll be alone forever. Educated yourself on the virus and the many options available for those who are afflicted with this virus.

Try to keep your chin up, knowing that you are not in the small % of the population that don't carry the virus, rather you are in the far larger % of people that do carry the virus.

Best of luck to you

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I don't know why people get so hung-up over Coldsores. I've seen figures that show between 50-90% of the population already have coldsores...HSV1.

In fact, most people get coldsores in childhood... and that's got nothing to do with sex.

So what's the problem? Don't kiss when you have an OB and use medications.

I've had cold sores for decades. I've been married, divorced, had 2 children, many girlfriends and none of my family has coldsores.

It's not a big issue. Get out there pal and live.

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joesy

You, my dear, are a breath of fresh air, you really are.

Is it a pain in the arse.

But get over it.

Are we starving. Do we have bipolar (highest incidence of suicide in mental health probs), do we have HIV etc etc

I truely wish you all the luck in the world

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I don't know why people get so hung-up over Coldsores. I've seen figures that show between 50-90% of the population already have coldsores...HSV1.

In fact, most people get coldsores in childhood... and that's got nothing to do with sex.

So what's the problem? Don't kiss when you have an OB and use medications.

I've had cold sores for decades. I've been married, divorced, had 2 children, many girlfriends and none of my family has coldsores.

It's not a big issue. Get out there pal and live.

its not a big issue 4 u mate, but wen u get many sores around ur penis every 6 weeks, and coldsores every 2, then come bak and say that

the guy is in the same mental state as me by the sound of things, and i feel 4 him


im happy 4 u that u can deal with it so easily, maybe u havnt been stood up in a bar wen u told ur date, or maybe u havnt been called "uuuur thats nastyyy, dont bother 2 contact me again"



i find it easy 2 jump off a crane with just a bit of elastic tied to my feet, do u?

that was a selfish comment

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I agree it's important to empathise with people and not to play down their suffering - we've all been there, some of us are still going through it. But at the end of the day that's exactly how I want to see it - as a coldsore, and it's no big deal. A Psychologist (or Psychiatrist not sure which) was quoted to say in the UK recently - it's just a coldsore in an awkward place.

The way I look at it, when I'm 80 and looking back on life, will I wish I'd worried even more about this virus, got even more upset, more deperate? Absolutely not. I struggle with it I really do but some days, I really couldn't give a toss about it. And I want more days like that.

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I had cold sore for 30 years!!! And now, none.

Look for me and my thread for more information.

God Bless,
Paxton

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Gosh, I know what you mean. My ex boyfriend just broke up with (not because of herpes) and I find myself back in that vulnerable state of dating again. I hate it. It's so hard to bring it up to someone else but it's so important that you do. If all you have is coldsores, be thankful! They are very common and go away rather quickly. What I always try to remind of is that someone who really likes you and wants to be with you won't let something so trivial get in the way. If someone gives you a hard time, they aren't worth your time to begin with.