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I'm going to try this - I'm not sure if you can vote more than once - but I'm curious to see the responses...

PLEASE vote if you have experience this!

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You can only vote once - too bad - I had one "totally accepting" and one "never spoke to me again" FYI....

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Darn, I could only vote once. I have had 6 years of "telling" experience. Some good, some bad. I'd say the majority was good. I have probably told hmmm....10 to 15 guys. One didn't have the balls to tell me he couldn't see me anymore in person...he wrote an e-mail. However, he came around a few months later and realized he made a mistake. (Later we ended up having sex, but maybe we shouldn't have...what a waste of sex...it was bad) Another stopped calling me but a few months later wrote me an e-mail and apologized. Recently, he wrote me again, asking me out for Valentine's Day. I met a guy on vacation who flipped out and never spoke to me. ALL THE REST were good experiences. Well, one said he was OK with it but was apprehensive, I could feel it. My current boyrfriend of 2 months was sooooo completely accepting and loving. Interested in learning more? Read my story! (Posted today)

Heather

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Still waiting to find out. I only told him three days ago and I'm giving him some time to think it over. It's tough, the waiting, the self loathing... I hate this.

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had one girl just look at me & say "so what..i have it too"... kinda stole my thunder....lol

one just kinda said "oh... well... uh..." and that was about it.. didnt stop her from starting a relationship

one got really weird at first & then i showed her a bunch of resources on it & she was fine with it after that

one said go away.....but she came back on her own later...

have never had anyone say get the hell away from me to this point and stick to that decision

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I have had some good and some bad. The most recent is still thinking about it. It is driving me crazy! It is hard to stay positive when your sitting and waiting. :roll:

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boy, kingsfan, i think that reaction is one we all secretly hope for (the so what i have it too one)!

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I've had herpes for 4 yrs, and haven't been w/ anybody other than the guy who gave it to me since contracting it. I just told for the first time the other day, and was very relieved at how he took it. He was very accepting. Concerned and apprehensive, but that's a good thing I think. I'd be concerned if he acted like it wasn't anything at all. And he's less apprehensive with a few days to think and research. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted! And I'm so grateful to sites like this where not only I can get info, but he has been able to come and read messages posted and see what this is all about. (it's made telling ALOT easier I think)

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I was one of the three that answered 'never spoke to me again' b/c at the time, that is what I believed would be the forever answer. When I told him, we'd had unprotected sex already. (bad mistake on my part. Never will do it again just based on how awful the guilt was.) Fortunately he had alot of time to think, about 6 wks to be exact, and came to miss me, and we are seeing each other again. I feel probably more apprehensive than he does, since, he's never had an outbreak and I would like to keep it that way. So we're in the 'accepting but apprehensive' category now. Perhaps one day I can honestly answer, 'totally accepting'. :)

stbh