Question:
I'm 19, engaged, hoping to start a family when I graduate college in 2 years... but now I'm so afraid. I had no idea that I had the virus, I thought that I had just some normal tingly feeling... but then it got so intense that I absolutley under no circumstances could urinate. I went 3 days without using the bathroom, I tried the shower, the tub, everything.. no luck. Well, I went to the doctor, and of course my gynocologist was off that day, so I had to go to some man that I've never seen before and tell him that "I'm afraid I have something going on down there." I was extremely embarassed, and of course I was 15 min. late for my appt. and the doctor had a conference in 10 minutes so it was a quick look and a "yeah you have herpes, here's a prescription" and sent me on my way... no time for questions no time for anything. I got in my car and broke in to tears. It's the stigma, the you're a whore, or dirty for having an STD. When in actuality, most people aren't... I'm just scared, and feeling rather alone at the moment. I told my fiance, and he's right here with me, he said "Baby, we're in this together." Which was wonderful, but I'm still so shocked. I found out that both my mother and my father also have herpes, and I don't know if there is any possibility that I could've contracted the virus from either of them. He's pretty sure that's how it happened, but so far the evidence seems to point in another direction. I was raped when I was 15, and my guess is that's where it came from, but some places I've read that the virus can go un-detected for years, then others say from 3 days to 2 weeks.... I just don't know!! I'm so confused, and I hope to find some support here among friends :wink:

Hope you've some advice!
Thanks

Answer:
I'm glad you are realizing that your life is not over. For more information about herpes and how it can be transmitted you might try reading the free herpes handbook over on www.westoverheights.com

((( hugs )))

Angela :D