Question:
I'd love to hear/read some input from those who love and care about a person with herpes.

It's easy for us with herpes to sit here and think we know what we know, but it should be considered what our loved ones go through as well.

Perhaps if we better understood the other side, it could open doors for much better communication.

Hope to hear from many of you.

Feel free to email me privately if you like.

My email is gayla at herpesonline.org

Gayla

Answer:
I am in love with someone who has the HSV virus and I need info about the diesase can anybody stir me in the right direction.Thanks. :D

Answer:
I HAVE FALLEN IN LOVE WITH SOME ONE WHO TOLD ME PRETTY MUCH RIGHT OFF THE BAT THAT THEY HAD THE DISEASE.
I ALREAD HAD A STRONG ATTRTACTION TO THIS PERSON.
WHEN HE TOLD ME, I FELT MY HEART SINK, I THOUGHT IT WOULD CHANGE THE WAY I FELT. IT DID NOT. I LOVE THIS PERSON.
I DO NOT HAVE HERPES, I AM SCARED, I HAVE NOT HAD SEX WITH THIS PERSON. BUT, I WANT TO, BECAUSE I LOVE THE PERSON. I AM SCARED :cry:

Answer:
HISGIRL,
I'm a HERGUY.
It is likley that my perspective is different.
My gal is infected and it is under control with Valtrex. She has maybe one very minor outbreak a year. We have not yet had intercourse, but we have had wonderful 3rd-base love-making. We are planning on marriage in about a year. Meanwhile, she has been reluctant and somewhat frightened with giving me the disease, especially with the mostly unlikely possibilty that we will break up. I am a widowed 56 year old, and I have found in this wonderful woman my second life's love. I am not afraid at all of getting the virus. Meanwhile, we are getting close to beginning protected intercourse. Using a condom is not a necessary thing for me, but she will feel better about it. I actually hope I do get the virus. If you read around this websight, you find that loving couples who both have the virus under control have totally normal sexual relationships, except at outbreak times, and you'll see that love carries people thru those short times. I suppose we will use the condom and probably with some anxiousness wait and see if I get the virus. Of course with the condom's protection, it will likely not break out at the most sensitive private areas. Once the outbreak occurs, with treatment and some more time for antibodies to build up, then noraml life can begin. Once we are married and maybe even before based on how my gal feels about it, if I have not yet gotten the virus from her, we will begin unprotected sex. I like the one couple's view they they have "His and Her-pes". To look at it with loving eyes, this disease is nearly not the bad thing you may think now.

Meanwhile, you are the uninfected woman in your situation. You may be younger than me, and your relationship with the guy may not be as firm as mine. I will tell you only this. My gal's experience with uninfected guys has been pretty negative before I came along. Rejection is hard. Approaching the subject with a new friend is hard. Feelings of dirtiness, etc. are hard. Also, I would think that your 3rd base sex options would be more limited with an infected guy than it is with an infected woman.

So, my general advice is to make certain that a guy is "the one" before you go too far with sex and expose yourself.

Trying to help,
Mike