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I am dating a wonderfull woman. we have not been dating long and we took intimacy slow. one night before things got too hot and heavy I was told about her herpes and I was a little shocked but ultimately told her that I cared about her more than I cared ahbout her outbreaks. I am now trying to cope in a relationship where she has it and I don't but she is so wonderfull that I am willing to try to make it work I am just hoping someone out there has advice besides simply using condoms which we do and avoiding intercourse between outbreaks

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My boyfriend and I broke up because I have herpes. :( I'm glad that you can look past this though because there are just so many more important things about a person. Yes, there is more that you can do. Is she on suppressive therapy like Valtrex? That also helps reduce the risk of transmission.

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i wish i could find someone like you! we all do! our hats off to you.

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Hi,
New to here.
I do not have Herpes. My lady friend does.
My wife passed away recently from a terrible brain disease. I needed to be her advocate to the medical community since her disease took away her cognitive abilities early, so I dug into her life and found that she had kept some secrets from me over our 34 years of marriage. These essentially explained to me why our sexual intamacy was poor throughout our marriage. Otherwise, she was my soulmate and we had a wonderful marriage, intimate in all ways that are really important, but sex was always a problem. Moving on with my life after her death, I have decided to seek truth and honesty in everything I do. I do not want to be burned again with secrets and such. I have been attracted to an acquantance and decided to make a move for a relationship, but via an e-mail, to save face if I was rejected. I seemed to feel a connection with this special lady through our mutual lonliness and wanted to open a dialog with her to explore that lonliness and maybe help each other. She responded with a beautiful (if long) e-mail that took her 5 hours to write. She laid out her life to me, including the fact that she has Genital Herpes 2, and how she contracted it. In the end she said she would love to start a relationship, but that I was the one who had to decide to continue or not. I loved her honesty (and still do)! I rushed to her place that evening to talk with her for the first time. We have found that we are indeed soulmates. Every time together we share more and more of our honesty, including our mutual fears and hopes about her Herpes and my lack of it. I'm 55, and I've got a heart problem, and I just lived through watching my wife fade away and breathe her last breath from a terrible disease. Herpes seems like a bug bite in comparison. The reason I'm here is to see how all you guys have lived through this, and to gain some additional insight into my lady's heart and soul concerning her Herpes. I guess I'm here also to say from the "other shoe" that Honesty is truely the best policy. It has worked for us.
Thanks for listening.

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schaeffz,

thank you for sharing.

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I just recently found out from my love that she has the HSV virus and it nearly tore us apart,but I love her and I told her I would not leave her,basiclly I just said "you are stuck with me" :D

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The world needs more understanding and accepting people like the two of you. The ladies in your life are lucky women.

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Hi,
New to here.
I do not have Herpes. My lady friend does.
My wife passed away recently from a terrible brain disease. I needed to be her advocate to the medical community since her disease took away her cognitive abilities early, so I dug into her life and found that she had kept some secrets from me over our 34 years of marriage. These essentially explained to me why our sexual intamacy was poor throughout our marriage. Otherwise, she was my soulmate and we had a wonderful marriage, intimate in all ways that are really important, but sex was always a problem. Moving on with my life after her death, I have decided to seek truth and honesty in everything I do. I do not want to be burned again with secrets and such. I have been attracted to an acquantance and decided to make a move for a relationship, but via an e-mail, to save face if I was rejected. I seemed to feel a connection with this special lady through our mutual lonliness and wanted to open a dialog with her to explore that lonliness and maybe help each other. She responded with a beautiful (if long) e-mail that took her 5 hours to write. She laid out her life to me, including the fact that she has Genital Herpes 2, and how she contracted it. In the end she said she would love to start a relationship, but that I was the one who had to decide to continue or not. I loved her honesty (and still do)! I rushed to her place that evening to talk with her for the first time. We have found that we are indeed soulmates. Every time together we share more and more of our honesty, including our mutual fears and hopes about her Herpes and my lack of it. I'm 55, and I've got a heart problem, and I just lived through watching my wife fade away and breathe her last breath from a terrible disease. Herpes seems like a bug bite in comparison. The reason I'm here is to see how all you guys have lived through this, and to gain some additional insight into my lady's heart and soul concerning her Herpes. I guess I'm here also to say from the "other shoe" that Honesty is truely the best policy. It has worked for us.
Thanks for listening. Hello,
I just joined this website and have just finished reading your message. Are you still active with this group? I particularly interested in corresponding with people in mid-life, like me. I'm 51. If you respond to this I'll explain more.
Thanks.

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I was told by my girlfriend that she had the virus. It really broke my heart when she told me how it happened (her then-boyfriend gave it to her the first time she had sex) and I told her that I wouldn't let a virus come between us! I'll admit, when I was younger I might have dealt differently with this, but if you're involved with someone who truly loves you and you love them, then that's not reason enough to stop! Whenever she wants to talk about it, I'll listen and remind her, "I love you and nothing can change the way I feel, I know you would feel the same if it were me that was infected". I realize that life is short, and if you find someone that you love unconditionally, then nothing should get in the way...