Question:
so many people keep saying they only have outbreaks like once or twice or year or they've only had a few outbreaks in their lives.... i just want to know if all these people are sexually active?? i'm not even sure i have herpes but it seems like every time i have sex or some kind of sexual encounter, irritation starts again.... am i never going to be able to have a normal life w/ sex included w/o having an outbreak??? i'm in college. i'm so young... i date a lot of guys though i've only had a few sexual partners.... i feel like my life is absolutely over. what if the next guy i start dating, when we get to the point where we want to have sex, i tell him i have genital herpes and then he doesn't want to date me anymore? no big deal right? but what happens when he tells his friends?? i'm going home for christmas break and i'm gonna see my exboyfriend who i have very unresolved issues with. what happens if we start hanging out again? it'll be weird to not have sex after we've been intimate about a million times before.... i don't know what to do. this is the worst possible thing that could have ever happened to me... i just need to know how people deal w/ this and how i can ever have a normal life again

Answer:
If your not sure you have herpes then you need to either have the sores looked at or swabbed by a doctor or get the blood test done and soon.Also don't have any sex until you know for sure.

When you meet up with your former bf hang out and have fun.Fun doesn't have to be sex and it's only going to be weird if you let it be that way.Just hang out and be friends.If he mentions sex and why your not into that with him you can either be honest with him and tell him your fear about herpes.If you trust him and are still good enough friends with him telling him may help you feel better.Only tell him though if your comfortable and know he won't tell anyone.If you decide not to tell him then you can just say "hey we are not together that way anymore,this is the start of a new type of relationship for us with no sex".If he really cares for you then he will accept this.

Good Luck!!