Question:
A guy that I have been seeing for awhile has performed oral sex on me and I have H. I wanted to tell him about the disease but I was too ashamed to tell him. Now what do I do because we are talking about starting a relationship?

Answer:
You need to tell him... what you did to him was not fair... he has the right to decide about having sex with someone with Herpes.. and you took that away from him... tell him... and soon... there is no reason to be ashamed about having herpes.. it happens.. it is not who you are.. never let anyone make you feel like less of a person because of it...

Answer:
I know what I did was not fair its just that I'm so affraid of him to think differently of me. I know I'm a good person I'm just affraid of getting hurt and afriad of him telling someone else.