Question:
Ever since I was diagnosed with herpes, I have not felt very intimate. When I kiss my b/f, I feel odd. So, if I feel this way about a simple kiss, then how will I ever want to be sexually involved with him. Even when I try to think about being intimate, it just fades away. I do not even know if I can get aroused at this time because I feel as if I will get an outbreak. Frankly, I do not even know if my first ob is over. I still feel a tingle and an itch from time to time, but it goes away. At this point, being sexual is not on my mind. I want to know if anyone else has felt this way, but got over it and is now being intimate with their b/f?

Each day I struggle to get over this. Everytime I think that I am making progress towards moving past herpes, I have a mental set back. Mostly, I feel positive about it, but when I feel a sting, tingle, or itch I get very upset and frustrated. I have got to find a way to control this becasue I am going to loose my mind. I cannot go through this every month. I know that things could be worse, but I still do not feel very upbeat about contracting this. Maybe if it was easier to control, then it would not be so bad.

Most people say that it is okay and the world is not going to end, but it seems as such when you have an ob. Maybe as time passes it will get better for me once I start to increase my exercise, alter my diet, and develop ways to manage my stress. Stress is going to be the biggest problem for me. Right now, I am very stressed for various reasons, however, I am trying very, very hard to take it easy because I know that stress is not good for herpes.

If it was not for this site, I do not know what I would do. I do not have anyone to talk to about this and sometimes it becomes very overwhelming. I know that holding this inside is stressful enough, but it is difficult to talk to someone about it. I truly appreciate anyone who has anything to offer.:(

Answer:
If you feel a significant tingle or itch then maybe you should wait untill that goes away completely. I also feel a very slight tingle and itch from time to time. I dont know if this makes much sense but when i feel it i apply a little hydrogen peroxide to the area (outer labia-i dont know if its safe to do that in the inside) and it totally goes away. (oxygen is a killing agent of the virus)
Im sure you will feel comfortable to be intimate again just give it as much time as you possibly need and dont rush things, take it as slow as you want.
Your lucky to have your boyfriend to help you with this.

And you do have someone to talk to...US! :D