Question:
Can I let a guy finger me without having "the talk"? I've been hooking up with a friend of mine (kissing only) and he tried to undo my belt a few nights ago and I told him to stop. I want to take "hooking up" to the next level but I'm not sure. I am positive that he must be wondering why we've never gone past kissing (I'm not prude). I have jerked him off a couple of times but I have never let him undo my pants (even though he's tried). I know he wants to go down on me and I know I can't let him do that, even though I am not having an OB, but what about fingering? Of course, if we decide to take the step into sex, I would absolutely tell him. But I only have HSV2. So if I am not having an OB, is it safe to let him finger me?

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u need to tell him.
he fingers you, ur not wet enough, he licks his finger, and bam> oral herpes it is for him.

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Damn, I never thought about that. Good point. I guess I'll just break things off with him.

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mmhumm, or u could just tell him and maybe he will still go for it

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I think that HSV2 generally stays to the genital region. I have read that people who have HSV2 get oral performed on them and the person who is giving the oral never gets any sign of HSV2 in the mouth. I am pretty sure HSV2 only gets OBs in the genital region. HSV1 genitally is a different story.

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Sorry that's wrong. Can't remember the exact stats, but a large proportion of oral herpes is actually type 2. This has increased over recent years as sexual practices have changed ie oral sex has become common sexual practice.

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Also, let us not forget little ole Herpes Whitlow, which is herpes of the fingers and CAN be contracted via oral OR genital herpes.

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Oh don't! If you think he is cool and you want to keep going, maybe u can find a way? At least give him a chance to realize what is going on and why he is not "making it", don't lock him out!

He still can make an informed decision afterwards.

I am just trying to find a way to regain my sanity after the diagnosis, and i admit that i am doing terrible as we both, my partner and me are very,very,very active. But you have to be open, and i acually love my partner even more now for the fantastic way how we can talk about the situation and try to help each other dealing with it.

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Just curious...have you ever told anyone the you were interested in, that you have H? Did it turn out as you hoped? Are you considering telling the guy you are seeing now? I am not really in a position to give advice about this, becasue I have never told anyone, let alone someone I was interested in sexually, but the part of me that wants to hold onto the hope that someday when I share the fact that I have H, he will not be scared away, wants to encourage other people to "give it their best shot" and take a chance. Well, whatever you decide, I hope it works out for you...