Question:
I've been hanging out with this amazing person. Last night he came over and when things started to get intimate for the first time, I stopped him so that I could discuss the fact that I have genital herpes. He has cold sores (herpes simplex 1) but was appeared to be pretty nervous after I told him. He said he wanted to go and google genital herpes to educate himself....great! I'm glad he wants to educate himself, but I'm of course afraid of losing this person as a potential partner. From what I can see online, most of the info seems pretty daunting. I have had previous partners whom I have told and they were ok with it. When I am about to get an outbreak I get symptoms that I am aware of and refrain from any sexual encounters during this time. I have never passed it along to anyone so far. However when reading the info online, its kinda scary, as it says that you can contract it without having symptoms. Are there any people out there that are in relationships with a partner that has gential herpes but have never contracted it? I'd love some advice. I've also heard that if you have herpes simplex 1 (cold sores) you are less susceptible to getting herpes simplex 2? Any advice would be great! Thanks!:sad:

Answer:
Are there any people out there that are in relationships with a partner that has gential herpes but have never contracted it? I'd love some advice. I've also heard that if you have herpes simplex 1 (cold sores) you are less susceptible to getting herpes simplex 2? Any advice would be great! Thanks!:sad: Great name, sexy but sad. It's important for people to realise that HSV doesn't stop them being sexy.

I dated a woman with genital herpes for 18 months and remained HSV-. After my partner told me, I spoke to my GP (in the US I think you say family practitioner) about it, and I remember him asking if I had ever had cold sores, because that could afford "some protection". Anyway, at the risk of boring some of the other members who are regulars here, the rest of the story went like this: used male or female condoms for the whole 18 months, with five or six "incidents" when the condom slipped off without us noticing immediately. None of which brought us into a panic - I remember being more concerned about pregnancy on each occasion. Also avoided sex when my partner felt an outbreak coming on. She didn't take suppressive therapy while we were together.

I think with those kinds of steps, the risk of transmission is reduced significantly. In fact, I personally think I have more chance of catching HSV now I'm on the "singles scene" (with new people whose HSV status may be hidden or unknown to them) than from within a relationship with someone who had the decency to share her status with me so we could plan around it. Anyway, that girl is now married with two children and I miss her! sniff sniff!

Answer:
I am dating a wonderful guy. I have had GHSV for 4 years and he has had Cold sores for about 2 years I think.

We have a very active great sex life. We love each other, don't use protection and I have never given it to him or my ex husband.

We are very careful in watching our bodies so I don't pass to him and vice versa. The only stop in our lives are when we have outbreaks. Hopefully he will educate himself and see that things will be okay and life can and will move on great.

PM me if you need to talk.