Question:
I am new to all this and seriously frustrated about the whole protected sex thing.... My man and I are waiting to hear back about our test results, but since i had my first ob last week, we're abstaining.

I've masturbated since the ob cleared up. I washed my hands VERY well afterwards and during made sure that I did not touch finger to mouth that had touched my yoni.... I'm trying to be smart... but also feeling a bit OCD about it.

So last nite my man and I messed around a bit. He had his fingers around my ass and i touched my clit... Again there was no finger to mouth after yoni touching. After I finished he started to move his hand. I said we both should go wash our hands and did. It felt safe.

But I"m a bit worried still of passing it to him... or some mouth contact.
I guess my question is: Am I doing this right? Is washing hands w/ anti bac soap enough?
thanks.
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Answer:
sounds as safe as possible when it comes to this crap....also be sure not to rub yourself too much or have him rub a lot of areas on you, as that can sometimes lead to spreading the active virus( if active and you dont realize because you dont see anything visible....asymptomatic shedding) to areas around or in close proximity that already were not infected. Also, be sure you and him both do not have any open cuts, paper cuts, torn cuticles on the hands, as that can lead to herpes whitlow (infecting your hands or fingers, which will then also be contagious and have "outbreaks" there as well and be able to shed in the future) but having no cuts and washing your hands very thoroughly is the best you can do to try and ensure this doesnt spread more. Some people on a few websites recommend using latex gloves for masturbation...mutual and alone to ensure not spreading it on the hands/fingers, but that seems so insane and unintimate to me, but there are people out there who do that to ensure they do not end up with it by mistake on their hands....just definitely not for me thats for sure...freaks me out thinking about it and reminds me of going to the gynecologist just thinking about it.

Answer:
um, yes, latex gloves is a total turn off.....

I never knew you could get it in your hands. Do you have any information about this? Like a website I could look at. I thought it was not possible to get it elsewhere. I mean i know you can get it on your face... eyes, nose etc....

Also. Does anyone here know if you have hsv-1 in the gential area can it be given to a man's penis if you were to have unprotected sex?
We are having a debate about this one.... I say yes, He says no, he can't get hsv-1 from my yoni.

thanks